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Guess I'm not as brave as you guys are , except maybe rn2 wn. Only my daughter knows and my husband. I just did not want people looking at me and asking "how much" or giving me their opinion . I figure it is none of their business (even my Mom and brothers, sis in laws, etc) I know in time the questions will come but it won't be like all the crap some of you have to put up with!

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Ada you are my kinda gal, that is terrific, I have got a m-I-l like that too!

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When my mom realized I was now wearing clothes 3 sizes smaller than she wears' date=' her response was "oh great, now I'm the fattest one in the family"

Geesh!![/quote']

Wow! What a snarky comment! Dare I ask if you replied to your mom?

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"Your face is soooo skinny" - Thanks I am glad I could shrink my beach ball head down for you.

I know it was not meant to be insulting at all but it amazing how people speak without thinking.

Omg, that made me literally LOL! Beachball head! Ha! Love it

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I love the "ooooooooooohhhhhhh...." Very knowing look when they find out you have the lapband followed by "my aunt/brother/mother/neighbor/coworker got it and they are still fat." Thank you for your support.
I hate that one! Ugh!

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i had to laugh at all the posts here cause can relate so much to many of them. dad is the weight police, mom still trying to shove food down me cause she misses her eating partner, sister still in competition and has turned to bulimia to catch up, other sister is awesome and sends me a shipment of new clothes at least once a month (i'm like her new dress up doll, lol!).

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i had to laugh at all the posts here cause can relate so much to many of them. dad is the weight police' date=' mom still trying to shove food down me cause she misses her eating partner, sister still in competition and has turned to bulimia to catch up, other sister is awesome and sends me a shipment of new clothes at least once a month (i'm like her new dress up doll, lol!).[/quote']

Give that one sister my address. I'll be someone's dress up doll. I love clothes! Lol

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Are you sick? My friend just died from, (whipsered) cancer!

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Reading through this certainly brightened my afternoon! Like many of you, I did not tell many people at all what I was doing. Wife, kids, boss. I wanted the boss to know mostly because of the number of pre and post op appointments I knew I would have to have. My coworkers who had to know I would be out of the office just knew I was having a 'minor procedure'. I am actually glad that in addition to the band, I had a hernia repair. Now when they are asking me post surgery how I am doing (and you know most of them are dying to ask you what your 'procedure' was for!) I can legitimately tell them it was for a hernia repair, and I am not technically lying! Then they can be supportive in wishing me well in my recovery from surgery, but we don't have to get into the whole other part of what I am going through.

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How's this one for a laugh...I did a facial side by side comparison. Showed it to what I thought was a very caring loving girlfriend. Her comment on the picture...THAt doesn't EVEN look like the same person does it? I just said no...but inside I was breaking down... YES.I.am.the .very.same.person.inside.! UGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

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A supposedly good friend told me why don't you try to lose weight on your own first?" HELLO!! I've been trying to lose for 35 years! I didn't just wake up one day and decide to have major surgery on a whim!

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A supposedly good friend told me why don't you try to lose weight on your own first?" HELLO!! I've been trying to lose for 35 years! I didn't just wake up one day and decide to have major surgery on a whim!

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