Advice needed: when someone you love tells someone else abt your band

[beanie80 146]

I agree with Mrsinto. Fine that you shared it with your friend. Fine that he shared it with his boyfriend. Kind of out of line for the bf to be writing you about it on fb. I'm sure he meant well and wanted you to know that he supports you, but you have never talked to him about it. It is your story, you get to choose who you talk to about it and when. It should be understood that the bf would know through his partner, but he really has no place bringing it up to you. I would probably say something to my friend about how it is fine that he told his partner, but that it made you uncomfortable when his partner sent you an email about it out of nowhere. No need to be mad/angry, but it is obviously bothering you and you probably just need to mention it/clear the air and get over it. The end.

[txflea 63]

Honestly I wish I could go back and not tell ANYONE! Family and all!!

[dee257 1,516]

I chose to keep my surgery to myself in the beginning...just hubby and sister knew.....as I got closer and started to loose some weight I shared with one good friend who is very over weight and I thought Id share incase she was thinking about it for herself....mistake...she was so rude to me about it...and to this day 125 lbs gone...she has yet to say anything positive to me.........Now that I have lost the weight and ppl ask Im more then pleased to tell them with the help of the band and lots of work I did it....and I think a huge part why I didn't want ppl to know at first was....I didn't want to be ashamed if this didn't work...but im working hard and its working !!!!

[7-15-13 6]

It's too bad that people have to be that way and not be happy for you! Have other people had bad experiences when they told others about their plans?

[7-15-13 6]

To Dee----Ill try to compensate for your "friend"

[7-15-13 6]

Oops-hit send too soon-

CONGRATS ------ GOOD WORK!!!!

[pastor o 73]

Hi all-

The predictable has happened: someone I didn't tell knows my plans for the band. I got a Facebook msg from him wishing me luck for my surgery. He is my oldest friend's boyfriend.

When I told my friend I asked him not to tell anyone. I'm not sure what to do. It has been a few days and I'm still bothered by it so I know I need to just talk to my friend about it. In the back of my head tho I wonder if I'm overreacting - possibly because this is the first time it's happened to me and I expect over time it is likely to happen more.

Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do?

Thanks!

Aviva

Being a follower of Jesus, of course I would advise exactly what HE Would Tell Any of Us; the Answer is Forgive Them. Nothing Cleanses Us more than the act!

[catlover602 85]

I have told everyone at work about my upcoming LB surgery. I am not ashamed about needing help with my weight loss. Some of my coworkers and family are going to start the preop liquid diet with me on the 11th. Im sure they'll be watching what I am eating, and that is ok. I will need all the support I can get.

[aviva1979 375]

Just FYI that I spoke with my friend and we had a great convo. He was pretty surprised his boyfriend had brought it up, apologized, and will make sure he knows not to bring it up again unless i do first.

[BklynPenny 51]

I have told everyone at work about my upcoming LB surgery. I am not ashamed about needing help with my weight loss. Some of my coworkers and family are going to start the preop liquid diet with me on the 11th. Im sure they'll be watching what I am eating' date=' and that is ok. I will need all the support I can get.[/quote']

I heard that too. Then the excuses are oh its a birthday, a holiday etc. Im left smelling the BBQ with a Protein shake in my hand. But this preop diet is not so healthy if u really think about it. We are doing this to shrink our livers not to drop the pounds. Just make sure they are safe and dr supervised. We can call our surgeons at anytime whats there excuse?

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[megpieky 9]

I didn't keep mine a secret either. I was very open throughout my entire process. I have a great amount of supporters, like my own group of cheerleaders pushing me through. It honestly feels amazing when they encourage me. Also, being open about it has held me accountable, if I don't stay on track I'm not only failing myself but everyone who supports me. Plus, when you start losing weight you will be asked about it...I didn't want to lie to everyone. Also, when you eat around people they need to understand that you aren't being difficult or rude, there are just some things you can't eat and the way you it is different. I wouldn't stress about someone knowing its an amazing step in your life, it's life changing! You're gonna need support from your loved ones!