Has anyone else felt this way?

[skinnyhereicome 41]

Okay lets start with I had my surgery on 01/21/2013, I am at 6cc in a 10cc band, I have lost a total of 35 lbs... I have not lost any weight since the beginning of June. I am feeling really discouraged, I am having a hard time with portion control and I am getting into bad eating habits again (cake at birthdays, candy at movies, bread with all meals, etc.). It is really funny because I was one of those people in the beginning saying why would people mess up after having such a procedure and now here I am having those same problems. I think a lot of it has to do with my boyfriend, in the beginning of this he was right there with me eating all the good stuff and exercising 4-5 times a week and now he has kind of fell off the healthy wagon so to say and I feel I am following (he lost 38 lbs.). I know my portions are much larger than they should be and I am only exercising 3 days a week. AHHHHH. My question is what do other people do to get back on track, I really need help I feel like I am getting to a point where I am going to revert right back to where I was 6 months ago and I want to just cry. Side note: I am getting very angry inside and I am going through a mini depression. I have no one to blame but myself.

[SolracSpree 133]

I cant speak from experience because im only 13 days post op, but I read a lot of post on this site and something I see a lot from people who lost their way is to start over again. Back to liquids and go from their. The only way you can do that is "ok i made a mistake" take that and move on. If you hold on to the guilt you wont be able to make progress. Everyone is human. You can do it! Talk with the BF too, you have to have someone who is willing to support you when you need it the most!

[SolracSpree 133]

Ignore my typos and spelling errors

[kazjim98 618]

The only way is to dig deep and do it...don't be too hard on yourself. I have a husband and 4 children to feed and temptation is always there, so I have to keep myself in check and keep my eye on the prize, a healthy me. Remember how good it felt to eat healthy, exercise and loose weight, you can get that back. Start over with Portion Control, count calories on myfitnesspal (I count every calorie I eat), lean Protein first and lots of water...cut yourself some slack but get back on track...you are so worth it...I hope you are getting some help for the depression too. Best Wishes

[GoingforGoal 1,734]

Well there's plenty of us who have fallen off the wagon. Pregnancy, medical issues, injuries and yes laziness too. I'm one of those due to pregnancy and an accident and was off my diet for 18months. Fortunately I maintained because I kept my band in green despite my poor food choices (I do NOT do stress and diet at the same time..this is hard wired in me lol). Sooooo..January I had recovered enough and was ready to start my diet efforts again. I thought it was going to be super hard but I think when the mental switch and determination clicks on it's go time and it's easier. I was 195 in Jan, I am now 152 at goal. So here's my tricks and a reality check. 1) I took pics and measurements prior to surgery. First thing I did was take new pics and measurements and compared them. This was the first time in 3 years I did this while on the band and it shocked the heck out of me. All of a sudden I felt thin and empowered..hey if it works, right?! Point is, remember your progress and start fresh as if you never stopped. 2) Go easy on yourself. I don't know if this is an age thing or not, but when I was younger I use to put so much pressure on myself. I HAD to lose 8lb/week because that was the average right? I HAD to eat perfectly because that one cupcake meant I wasn't eating perfectly and thus failed myself etc etc. I have changed that attitude around 100%. First, I set stupid easy goals. Like 20 lbs in 6 months. Crazy I know, but guess what?!?!?! I meet that goal every time PLUS SOME. Here's what happens when you do that. One, you allow yourself to be more lax with your diet. Not crazy eating, but rather, a cheat meal a week or a bite of something you crave and you already know it's not going to ruin your 20 lb in 6 month goal. I soon learned that the less stress I put on myself the more compliant I was and 'cheats' occurred less and less. Perhaps because I also allotted a transitional time where I didn't just go cold turkey nor did I deprive myself completely so I felt completely satisfied. Now reality check time 1) codependence will get you nowhere. My husband was banded same time as me. I am going strong and he fell off his wagon. Super long story involved here, but the moral of the story is that only I can be accountable for my happiness and wl. His cheating etc cannot dictate my behavior-period. When you don't allow someone elses behaviors to dictate yours it no longer holds you back. That is a mentality shift. Sure it's easier, but it's NOT necessary. I too am married, with 3 kids, when I work as a nurse there's food temptations every shift etc. But it's self control that gets you through it. 2) You also need to journal your foods/calories etc. The reality is you need to find your 'green' spot here too. Some people can eat 1200 cals and lose others are reduced to 1000 etc. You need to find out what your ideal caloric intake is for your exercise output. That is a hard # (+- 100 cals) that you needs to adhere to. If you want to eat more, you need to work out more etc If you don't want to work out, you eat less. Period. But most importantly, you need to keep the band in green. Don't abuse it and try to eat around it. Get back on here, get support. I m on here daily just as a physical and mental reminder that I am doing this thing!!! lol

[karenw 21]

wow inspiration from all of you, and the one who had the question sorri knew to this site and don't know names.... for you to be so honest and ask for help that takes courage good for you

[olliensys 53]

Please don't get discouraged. We are here for you. I am still pre-op but have been strugling with diets for many years. Last night I had the munchies and instead of raiding my daughters school Snacks like I usually do, I had half a Protein Shake (atkins dark milk chocolate) and I was fine. Also, I get motivated when I go to the health food store and find all kinds of neat stuff that is good for you. Today I was at Lassens and found a zero calorie sweetner called "monk fruit in the raw"....who knew. Anyway, I totally believe you can do it! Dry you eys and have a Protein shake girllllll.

[skinnyhereicome 41]

Well there's plenty of us who have fallen off the wagon. Pregnancy' date=' medical issues, injuries and yes laziness too. I'm one of those due to pregnancy and an accident and was off my diet for 18months. Fortunately I maintained because I kept my band in green despite my poor food choices (I do NOT do stress and diet at the same time..this is hard wired in me lol). Sooooo..January I had recovered enough and was ready to start my diet efforts again. I thought it was going to be super hard but I think when the mental switch and determination clicks on it's go time and it's easier. I was 195 in Jan, I am now 152 at goal. So here's my tricks and a reality check. 1) I took pics and measurements prior to surgery. First thing I did was take new pics and measurements and compared them. This was the first time in 3 years I did this while on the band and it shocked the heck out of me. All of a sudden I felt thin and empowered..hey if it works, right?! Point is, remember your progress and start fresh as if you never stopped. 2) Go easy on yourself. I don't know if this is an age thing or not, but when I was younger I use to put so much pressure on myself. I HAD to lose 8lb/week because that was the average right? I HAD to eat perfectly because that one cupcake meant I wasn't eating perfectly and thus failed myself etc etc. I have changed that attitude around 100%. First, I set stupid easy goals. Like 20 lbs in 6 months. Crazy I know, but guess what?!?!?! I meet that goal every time PLUS SOME. Here's what happens when you do that. One, you allow yourself to be more lax with your diet. Not crazy eating, but rather, a cheat meal a week or a bite of something you crave and you already know it's not going to ruin your 20 lb in 6 month goal. I soon learned that the less stress I put on myself the more compliant I was and 'cheats' occurred less and less. Perhaps because I also allotted a transitional time where I didn't just go cold turkey nor did I deprive myself completely so I felt completely satisfied. Now reality check time 1) codependence will get you nowhere. My husband was banded same time as me. I am going strong and he fell off his wagon. Super long story involved here, but the moral of the story is that only I can be accountable for my happiness and wl. His cheating etc cannot dictate my behavior-period. When you don't allow someone elses behaviors to dictate yours it no longer holds you back. That is a mentality shift. Sure it's easier, but it's NOT necessary. I too am married, with 3 kids, when I work as a nurse there's food temptations every shift etc. But it's self control that gets you through it. 2) You also need to journal your foods/calories etc. The reality is you need to find your 'green' spot here too. Some people can eat 1200 cals and lose others are reduced to 1000 etc. You need to find out what your ideal caloric intake is for your exercise output. That is a hard # (+- 100 cals) that you needs to adhere to. If you want to eat more, you need to work out more etc If you don't want to work out, you eat less. Period. But most importantly, you need to keep the band in green. Don't abuse it and try to eat around it. Get back on here, get support. I m on here daily just as a physical and mental reminder that I am doing this thing!!! lol[/quote']

Thank you so much I really needed to hear these wonderful things..I am going to quite my crying and get up and dust myself off......Here's to a thinner me. :-)

[Rojasanoll 920]

Unfortuantely, even with a band or other surgeries, to lose weight which some of us have had since birth is very hard. Determination is one way to get back on track. Admit that You have fallen off a bit and jump back in starting like you did before, the liquids but be very determine because you have had a big taste of food again. It will be hard but imagaine if you lost another 35 pounds.

YOU have to attack this problem very hard. It worked for You in the past and only YOU can make it work again.

Do It for your health and your future.

Best wishes and keep the faith.

[justfoundthisboard 25]

You are all such inspirations. I am terrified of falling off the wagon. But you are all right - if you fall off, just got to get back up and start again.

Thanks, everyone!

[skinnyhereicome 41]

I am proud to announce that after my breakdown last week and weighing in at 193lbs. I worked hard this week and went to see my doctor today and weighed in at 188lbs. Not bad for a week. Yay me. I have never done this before but I figured I would post some before and so far pics, with my head cut off of course. Lol.. Down 40lbs. as of today.

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[justfoundthisboard 25]

WOW! Congratulations on your success! You are doing GREAT!

[Renee2817 76]

You just have to know that this is your new life journey and not his...get back to your routine and you will do great. Be encouraged.

[Grateful mama 10]

I wonder if you need another fill. I wouldn't be able to eat bread with a meal. I understand that we are in control of our portions, but I'm not as hungry anymore and find bread, Pasta, cake difficult to eat. I am trying to decide if I'm in the "zone" and think I am close- maybe another half cc. Keep up the great work

[Fmtess 1]

Okay lets start with I had my surgery on 01/21/2013' date=' I am at 6cc in a 10cc band, I have lost a total of 35 lbs... I have not lost any weight since the beginning of June. I am feeling really discouraged, I am having a hard time with Portion Control and I am getting into bad eating habits again (cake at birthdays, candy at movies, bread with all meals, etc.). It is really funny because I was one of those people in the beginning saying why would people mess up after having such a procedure and now here I am having those same problems. I think a lot of it has to do with my boyfriend, in the beginning of this he was right there with me eating all the good stuff and exercising 4-5 times a week and now he has kind of fell off the healthy wagon so to say and I feel I am following (he lost 38 lbs.). I know my portions are much larger than they should be and I am only exercising 3 days a week. AHHHHH. My question is what do other people do to get back on track, I really need help I feel like I am getting to a point where I am going to revert right back to where I was 6 months ago and I want to just cry. Side note: I am getting very angry inside and I am going through a mini depression. I have no one to blame but myself.[/quote']

In the past, when I was able to eat things like bread it always meant it was time for a fill... Hang in there..