Irishflower79 183 Posted June 16, 2013 Does any pre banisters get bullied at work for being over weight? I do and I can't wait for my surgery! 1 staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
artminnesota 4 Posted June 16, 2013 I have had remarks all of my life and I believe I eventually was able to ignore them. If I had to start the whole thing over again I would be sure to tell no one that I was having the surgery including most of my family. It just gives some idiots more ammunition for their filthy mouths. Good luck with your surgery and I'll bet it will be the best decision of your life. Some times people do not want someone else to better themselves. Art 4 brianb, staceyhearn79, labwalker and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Debbie3sons 1,936 Posted June 16, 2013 If your getting bullied at work if you have a union call your union rep or go to your actuall boss if you r comfortable enough to go to them and let them know who is doing the bullying and let them know or someone hire up ,we don't like bullying . 3 brianb, staceyhearn79 and ☠carolinagirl☠ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Irishflower79 183 Posted June 16, 2013 Yeah only a few select people know I am having surgery- my aunt because she's my ride to and from the hospital, my primary doctor and of course the medical staff at True Results, all you wonderful people, and my son only because he went with me to my second appt. I am using vacation time for surgery also so I don't have to use fmla so work won't even know! I was going to try and do surgery and take the next day off but they only do surgeries Thursday and Fridays so I requested 2 wks off due to reading many post on here about being uncomfortable for a couple wks post op. I got completely shook to my core by my so called support system so I can't and won't trust them to be here for me, and support my decision. They will only tell me how stupid and dangerous this is, but to me it's stupid and dangerous not to have the surgery! Ok off my soap box Ps I have gone to my boss and nothing was done. 4 labwalker, brianb, staceyhearn79 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alivami@12 46 Posted June 16, 2013 I'm so sorry to hear that your being bullied but take head that God/karma des exist. I've seen it work. You must obviously be a very talented/special/positive person because bullies only like to bother those that they are jealous of. Don't let anyone make you feel bad, you have the power to decide how you feel. Keep positive. 1 staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Irishflower79 183 Posted June 16, 2013 Thank you everyone for your kind words! I just needed to vent Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
big tex 40 Posted June 17, 2013 Sorry to hear that, I was never bullied but I know that people had opinions about my weight. I have a pretty sharp tongue so I think most people knew to keep there opinions to themselves. I understand the feelings of wanting to keep this process private, but I just figured I'm gonna tell everybody. If someone has an opinion about it one way or the other the can kiss my a@&. This is our struggle, and unfortunately you can't really keep struggles with weight hidden like other struggles. Everybody has a struggle, and if they say they don't then they are liars. I posted on Facebook the day of my surgery" I had lapband today. So in few few months if I'm thinner, you will know why. And if I'm still fat...judge me in silence???Š". Take away the ammunition and hold your head high. I'm sorry there are rude people in your life. I wish the best for you, just know that there are many others in your corner, even if only in spirit. Good Luck! 2 vincereautmori and staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vincereautmori 323 Posted June 17, 2013 Not that you need our approval, but absolutely no doubt everyone here supports your decision. You have not just decided to address your health and weight, you have decided that you are a worthy and intelligent woman and that you deserve compassion and respect . As for your bullying workplace, do you have a lot of time invested there? Perhaps once you have gained your health and self confidence, other opportunities will arise. 2 JOANNE M HOLL and staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Irishflower79 183 Posted June 17, 2013 Yes I have been with this company for 13 years Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
feelinggood 152 Posted June 17, 2013 People can be real assholes! Most have self-esteem issues and makes them feel better to put others down. 3 ☠carolinagirl☠, brianb and staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Judy Robinette 51 Posted June 17, 2013 Don't give into them sweety:) Bullies are people who prey on other people because they have something bothering them in their own lives. Let you inner beauty shine through your eyes and as the weight comes off, they will be eating your dust! You Got THS!! 1 staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brianb 81 Posted June 18, 2013 Yeah only a few select people know I am having surgery- my aunt because she's my ride to and from the hospital, my primary doctor I think that is smart. Hardly anyone knows I've had it either. It will be interesting to see reactions as weight drops. I lost 20 pounds pre-op and already saw a noticeable change in attitude towards me... So pathetic how we are judged by our appearance. After reading this topic, I'm planning on keeping this a secret from most of my family. Even my immediate family. 1 staceyhearn79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721 Posted June 18, 2013 Does any pre banisters get bullied at work for being over weight? I do and I can't wait for my surgery! i agree with the others, if people are (being mean to you at work) tell someone and dont stop until action is took.....can you say, lawsuit....?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Creekwood 702 Posted June 18, 2013 Does any pre banisters get bullied at work for being over weight? I do and I can't wait for my surgery! I've never been a victim of bullying at work, probably just because I'm a guy. Also, I'm not exactly timid so if one of them tried to they would be in for a rude awakening. I agree a lot with what people here have said. BUT, I wouldn't wait until after you lose weight to stand up for yourself!! Your feelings are valid. You will lose weight with surgery and hard work but your self worth will not change. Your just as worthy of respect now as you will be after surgery! Put them a**holes in their place (at least that's what I would do ) good luck with everything, you have support here! 1 ☠carolinagirl☠ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Irishflower79 183 Posted June 18, 2013 Thank you everyone for your support! It really means a lot to have a place I can go to get the support I need and to vent to people who are in the same boat as I am Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
