Bandster hell

[mellsztav 1]

Hey everyone...i'm soo upset. I will be 2 months post op on June 16th 2013. My birthday is June 14th. This friday. I only lost 17 pounds. I've been eating a lot of fast food lately. I feel like a failure. I've been telling my mind ok tomorrow we are starting the diet. When it comes down to it i just let my self go. I feel like i have no restraints in my intake. I'm so upset at my self I feel like i've let my self down. There was no point of me going through the pain and i should of gotten the sleeve instead. I feel like a loser. Any advice on to what i should do?

[bindi 94]

Hi ! Ok you let yourself go now shake it off and move on. Your not a failure. You have made some bad choices. Now find your inner strength and make better ones. Whether you have the band or the sleeve I don't think that is the issue. When was your last fill? Why do you think your doing this ?

[B-52 7,113]

2 months...hang in there...it's still early...what's 2 months in the entire realm of a changed lifestyle....

It took me 6 months to get in the "Groove" so to speak, and even then another 6 months of learning to live in that magical place.....

2 months in, after 1st fill, began to gain weight...was told in order to loose weight I need to count calories, measure portions, keep a journal...all fine things, BUT...I didn't need surgery to do that...I was convinced it was a big waste of time, after all the pre-op hoops I had to jump through, testing, 6 month diet, the anxiety, $$ spent.....it was a big major let down to learn it was just another diet...

BOY WAS I WRONG!!!!!!! Best decision I could have ever made...literally changed, and SAVED my life....only regret is that I did not do it years sooner....none the less, I'm 61 going on 35.....BRING IT!!!!

[mrsto 2,925]

It sounds like you've lost your motivation. The sleeve won't fix that. You will need to do the work with all of these surgeries, and looking toward the sleeve is a bit of a cop out. I'm not saying that I don't understand the frustration and the drive to eat bad things. But you've only been banded a short time, and it doesn't sound like you've given it enough of a chance.....before throwing your arms up saying that you should have gone with the sleeve. NONE of these surgeries do the work for you. Hell, I wish they did!! It's hard.......I get it.

I agree with bindi above..... shake it off and move forward. And try & get in touch with why you're trying to sabotage the surgery.

Mellstav - we all have times when we veer off the path. It's frustrating, and it's scary. Given our past with food, we never know if a little step off the path, is going to be a 1000 mile trip off the path. I've had my moments as well, but every morning you wake up is a new day. Maybe go into your doctor's office & meet with the nutritionist. And if you need a fill, maybe that would help. But only you can take care of your mindset.

Good luck....

[ADJL 685]

Create a meal plan and follow it. I find myself leaning toward fast food when I'm hungry...my kids are hollering because they are hungry and I have no plan. Two months is nothing. I say that because I'm at about two months also. This is HARD to change (in my case) 39 years of habits...Don't expect to break all your bad ones in just two months. Keep going! You can do this!!! Give yourself a second chance as your birthday present!

[ItsANewDay 119]

I concur with B52. It does get better, much better. I was convinced that the Lapband was a huge waste of time and money. It took well over four months for my band to function. Now, it's almost magical. I have no real hunger, I am satisfied with very little. I'm down over 60 pounds. I couldn't be more pleased. The band does work and will work for you too. Just give it time and be faithful in your follow up appointments. It will happen for you too. Just don't give up on yourself or the band.

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

I agree, the Sleeve won't fix the issue. In fact, none of the WLS surgeries will. They can't stop you from eating the wrong food nor can they stop you from eating too much if you really want to. There's a saying around here "the band goes around your stomach, not your brain". Unfortunately, you're dealing with brain issues not stomach issues.

You're only 2 months post op. I'm guessing you're not in the Green Zone yet. Once you are, it does get a lot easier. When you're not hungry all the time you lose your preoccupation with food. When you're not preoccupied with food, you're far less likely to impulse eat (fast food) or eat too much.

Understanding is another really important part of this journey. Have a look at this link, I think it will really help you understand what the band does to help you as well as what is expected of you: http://drsimpson.net/fills/Lap-band-eating/lap-band-not-restriction/lap-band-and-restriction.html

Is there a support group near you? That might help you considerably, too.

Best wishes.

[mellsztav 1]

Hi ! Ok you let yourself go now shake it off and move on. Your not a failure. You have made some bad choices. Now find your inner strength and make better ones. Whether you have the band or the sleeve I don't think that is the issue. When was your last fill? Why do you think your doing this ?

I haven't had my fill yet because the doctor didn't want to do it. I don't eat enough and i had an appointment with him at 2pm and i spent the whole day without eating sometimes i have to force myself to eat because i don't get hungry.

[mrsto 2,925]

I haven't had my fill yet because the doctor didn't want to do it. I don't eat enough and i had an appointment with him at 2pm and i spent the whole day without eating sometimes i have to force myself to eat because i don't get hungry.

Based on what you're saying, I guess I'm confused by your original post. Why would you wish for the sleeve, when you're not hungry, and have to force yourself to eat? Fast food isn't the best choice, but if you portion it & account for it, then you're not doing as badly as you think. By your original post, it sounded like you were eating a bit out of control....like, super sizing your meals at the drive through.

If you're not hungry, the band is doing it's job. What is it that you think the sleeve will do, that the band isn't?

[bindi 94]

I agree with mrsinto. I'm confused .

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

if you eat fast food with the sleeve, you will gain weight or not lose also...

[mellsztav 1]

Based on what you're saying' date=' I guess I'm confused by your original post. Why would you wish for the sleeve, when you're not hungry, and have to force yourself to eat? Fast food isn't the best choice, but if you portion it & account for it, then you're not doing as badly as you think. By your original post, it sounded like you were eating a bit out of control....like, super sizing your meals at the drive through.

If you're not hungry, the band is doing it's job. What is it that you think the sleeve will do, that the band isn't?[/quote']

I'm stuck at my current weight. When i do decide to force myself into eating i go for fast foods instead of healthy ones. Thats my problem and i'm not loosing anymore. Thats whats frustrating me. I guess the sleeve would of been the same the crap.

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

I'm stuck at my current weight. When i do decide to force myself into eating i go for fast foods instead of healthy ones. Thats my problem and i'm not loosing anymore. Thats whats frustrating me. I guess the sleeve would of been the same the crap.

It sounds like you really need to see both a nutritionist and a counselor. No WLS it's going to magically make you eat healthy. Our issues with food are very real and sometimes we need very real help to deal with them.