Date set: July 11th - any other July banders?

[aviva1979 375]

Just bought two Goal dresses on sale at Target I believe I will fit by the end of the summer

[MaggieMay702 49]

You have all been invited. Check your email. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Is this the email we use for Facebook? If so, it'll be ILuvEeyore702@aol.com.

Is this just a more private forum? Thanks!

[MaggieMay702 49]

May I just vent for a minute?

I'm feeling a lack of support in general. Believe it or not, from my own FATHER who had this procedure done as well as by my friends. My mom has been the only one to listen to my emotional roller-coaster and I feel horrible dumping it on her for the fourth day in a row since my surgery!

For one, my surgery was out of town, the day before the 4th. I understand with the holiday, people are busy and such. But I didn't get many sell wishes from my friends and I didn't get any visitors in the hospital (despite having 10+ friends from the area) and a few people mention saying they'd visit. When my best friend had her baby, I drove out of town to come visit her. I'm just starting to feel like there's just not a friend out there that will reciprocate the support I offer them in times of need. Also, one of my best friends keeps asking over and over and over again about the program. The pre-op diet, post-op diet, fills, etc. I tell her the same info many times. Then when I explained it usually takes 2-3 fills before you start to feel restriction on your portion she said "that doesn't sound fun at all." I finally just said "Lol well I didn't do it bc it's fun. I did it because I needed to be healthy." Like support me much?!

Lastly...my dad. He had the Lapband done in 2011. Followed the liquid diet, didnt lose any weight beforehand but lost like an awesome 15-20lbs before surgery. After surgery, he says he thinks he did liquids for a couple of weeks until he just transitioned into full solids. I know this slowed his loss down bc he never made the Changes. He made some Protein changes, he meets his protein and hydration goals for the day. But he eats whatever he wants. Today when he got home I was in tears because nothing tastes good. Water tastes like metal, Jello is gross, blahhh. He said "are you going to stick with this?" Then "are you ready to lose the weight?" Then I asked him, "are you going to let me cook my own meals!" "Well of course but I don't have to eat it." Like really dad?? Why can't you try to support yourself and me and try some healthy stuff? All the while, my mom is in the process too so if I move out of town is my mom going to have to do it all alone while my dad brings chips and ice cream into the house?!!

Ughhhhhhh. Thanks for listening in advance.

[sprinkle715 87]

I got the same from my friends... They don't get it it are very against it if anything. I have friends way way way bigger than me and they try to find all negative things to say but I think it's jealousy! I'm having a hard time with pre op... I am not in strict liquids. I can have oatmeal raw veggies Protein Shakes a little chicken or fish sugar free ice pops etc.... I keep seeing people just on liquids and its freaking me out. I just have two Protein shakes and a salad or two with fat free dressing..... If it helps my family is very awkward with my surgery and we don't even talk a out it .... At least u have ur mom... Or just flat out say to ur dad if he has nothing nice to say keep ur mouth shut... That's what's I would say... And as for your friends it could be a number of reasons... I find jealousy to be a main one and the ones that aren't heavy are very supportive! We r here too to help.... I go in Thursday!!

[BklynPenny 51]

Well, how bout me... the past 3 days have been BBQ'S & partying. I get from my sisters"Penny what's wrong with you, your acting weird." WTF, bc im not stuffing my face & not drinking makes there something wrong with me??? Hello, surgery in 4 days & my anxiety is at an all time high.

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[sprinkle715 87]

It's tough!! I go to shop rite and make a salad at the salad bar but again I was not restricted to just liquids... Some people I read weren't required a pre op diet at all

[MaggieMay702 49]

Yeah, I've decided to be very open with my surgery because I'm the ELEVENTH one within both sides of my family to undergo weight loss surgery. I know it sounds extreme but I have a very large family and that number includes aunts, cousins, second cousins, etc.

But anyways I've decided to be open about it because many of my family and friends (might I add) who've had a procedure done have done so very quietly. I can't do that. I don't want to hide because to me that implies I'm doing something wrong. Well lately I've just felt like no one is really talking to me or checking up...like no I'm not gonna post my every update on Facebook but I'm not gonna hide myself until I hit my goal weight and then boom!

I'm rambling. I guess the only way for others to understand is to have gone through it themselves... I guess I thought with the amount of family members I've had do the surgery that I'd have more support.

[sprinkle715 87]

Honestly I think you're in a better state of mind than any! You sound positive and ready to go. I am very shy and am keeping it a secret from a lot of people besides my very close family and friends. Weight is not really and issue in my family and I have only been bug about four years and its awful. I'm very sensitive about it and embarrassed and ashamed. I think it's great you own who you are and not afraid. I envy that positivity about you. Just text. Few friends and say u feel low and need someone to talk to and u feel like u were left out when u have been around. A small pep talk and encouraging words are not at all too much to ask for and u deserve it!

[sprinkle715 87]

Anyone have any advice they want to share now that they are banded.... Still worried about gas pains

[Crayolaphoenix 24]

I can't check that email anymore cause it was from school but it is the one attached to my Facebook... Can I give u my Facebook name

sprinkle715: Yes, private message me your facebook name and we'll get it worked out.

[Crayolaphoenix 24]

Is this the email we use for Facebook? If so, it'll be ILuvEeyore702@aol.com.

Is this just a more private forum? Thanks!

MaggieMay702: Yes.. but, also.. I don't know about you, but I check facebook WAY more often than I check this sight. I just thought that for those of us that spend a decent amount of time on facebook, it would be a good way for us July banders to stay in contact and encourage each other. My husband had this done almost 2 years ago, and is a member of this community and he says it's really common practice. I know it's easier for him to keep up on fb than it is to keep up here. But.. to each his own.

Your invite has been sent.

[MaggieMay702 49]

Honestly I think you're in a better state of mind than any! You sound positive and ready to go. I am very shy and am keeping it a secret from a lot of people besides my very close family and friends. Weight is not really and issue in my family and I have only been bug about four years and its awful. I'm very sensitive about it and embarrassed and ashamed. I think it's great you own who you are and not afraid. I envy that positivity about you. Just text. Few friends and say u feel low and need someone to talk to and u feel like u were left out when u have been around. A small pep talk and encouraging words are not at all too much to ask for and u deserve it!

Thank you so much for your encouragement. I have had to work very hard to "own" where I'm at on this journey and stop blaming others for my poor choices and habits. It was hard! I, too, was treated badly and it's not easy to live with. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you're finding the support you need. The support groups are very helpful. I also went to therapy to help me through this journey. It's a huge transformation! Please feel free to email me westcomk@gmail.com anytime if you'd like to be pen pals through your journey. .

[fashionstylist 458]

Thank you so much for your encouragement. I have had to work very hard to "own" where I'm at on this journey and stop blaming others for my poor choices and habits. It was hard! I' date=' too, was treated badly and it's not easy to live with. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you're finding the support you need. The support groups are very helpful. I also went to therapy to help me through this journey. It's a huge transformation! Please feel free to email me westcomk@gmail.com anytime if you'd like to be pen pals through your journey. .[/quote']

I experienced the same thing yesterday . None oft family was able to make it. I cried and cried. My husband was acting crazy and I was nervous . It was something ! But I made it through. This is all abt me.

[marieh 18]

So my pre-op diet the last 2 days have been iffy at best. Went out and had drinks last night. Today I felt like I have to have one last decent meal. Seems like i wont be eating for a long while.

[Crayolaphoenix 24]

So my pre-op diet the last 2 days have been iffy at best. Went out and had drinks last night. Today I felt like I have to have one last decent meal. Seems like i wont be eating for a long while.

Don't beat yourself up. But, be sure to inform your doctor. I think you'll be fine though.