Surgery Date Set--I can't believe I'm actually doing this

[Prynn65 18]

Hello Bandster Family!

So I'm sitting here and thinking to myself--I can't believe this is actually going to happen. And it's not so much that I am "actually" having the the WLS so much as it is that I will finally have a tool to help me keep my weight at a healthy level for life. As I would imagine most of us have, I have struggled with the weight issue my whole life. The whole "fat kid" teasing, the starvation to get slim only to gain it all back and then some in the teen years...and a couple more times as an adult..being overweight most of my life...the self loathing for not having "control".

My surgery date is set for June 20,2013. I have not told anyone yet, not even my husband. My husband is against WLS as he feels it is dangerous and unnecessary and that if people will just "eat right and exercise" it should not be a problem. I wanted to do this 2 years ago and because of his extreme negative opinion, I did not do it. What do I have to show for that? Another 20 lbs gained. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh............ Why can't some people understand that if that worked for all of us that simply we'd just do it?

Wish me well in telling my darling spouse that this IS HAPPENING! I appreciate his love and concern, but this is MY LIFE (literally) we are talking about and not to mention the fact that this is a relatively safe surgery with very rare post-op complications. We have known several people who have died following gastric bypass surgery, etc. due to post-op complications, so this is what is stuck in his mind.

Anyone else have problems with family members or others arguing against the surgery?

Thanks!

[grace24ann 18]

Well first of all good luck and the band was the best decision of my life! Secondly you are gonna need to tell him bc you are gonna need his support! It's a lot harder to lose the weight And do good whenever someone is against it and pushing against what you want or need!

I would just tell him that he's there are always complications with any surgery but if you don't do something now you are just killing yourself anyway ! That's how I look at it! With every pound I gain I'm just killing myself or setting myself up for an early death! Be honest with him about why you need this and want this and that it is what's best for you and that you would love for him to be a part of this with you and a partner in helping you become healthier for yourself and for him!

[Prynn65 18]

Thanks grace24ann! Best of luck to you, also.

[utkscvol1 125]

Good luck:) I was very fortunate. My husband has been supportive- with that being said hope he keeps it up when surgery day comes along. He is not a good nurse:(

[Tonya Miller-Goodman 20]

Omg is your husband related to my husband I also had a hard time getting my husband to understand why I needed this WLS but I told him at the start of my process and what he wouldn't accept from me I had my surgeron and his team help him to understand the importance of losing weight now they were great help in making him come to his senses he's not 100% there but he tries to support as much as he can and its his support that helps me get through the hard times. Good luck try taking him to me your surgery before your date make it will decrease any stress or anxiety