Im feeling down and depressed, failing miserably

[sugiesug 3]

My start weight was 334, I got down to 304, now I'm 306. I really got mentally messed up and started to eat whatever I wanted, there are no foods I can't tolerant, I was banded in Feb 2013, I've had two fills and absolutely no restrictions. I can't fail at this, please help

[cindroo 57]

My weight fluctuates like that. I'll struggle going up and down about 10 lbs and then all of a sudden ill have a big loss for a few days. And then for the next couple weeks same struggle! I've had 3 fills, 5 cc's in a 10cc band. I don't feel much difference except in the mornings. But I keep measuring my food and getting plenty of exercise and its coming off. Getting another fill next week, though.

Keep doing what you are supposed to do and the weight will come off. Please don't give up. You can do this. Best of luck to you!

[Maddysgram 6,159]

You are doing great. 30lbs in 3mths. If you are going to let your emotions mess with you, you need to find a therapist, or someone who can help you through that. We all will face stress in our lives. Its up to us to learn a different way to handle it.Exercise, read a book, find a hobby anything but use food.

We can support you, but its you that has to help yourself.

If I could, I would be there to slap the crap out of your hands before you put it in your mouth, but thats not possible.

Make up your mind. Do you want better health? Just do it!

My thoughts & prayers for you to find away to deal with pressures.

Good luck!

[Maddysgram 6,159]

PS. Until you have enough fills, it is a fight.

Fight a good fight!

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

Congratulations on your loss so far!

Keep in mind the band isn't meant to physically stop you from eating anything. "Restriction" with the band doesn't mean it's going to restrict the food you can eat. It means literally restriction around your stomach from the band tightening.

What the band will do for you once you have adequate Fluid in it is it will control your hunger. You will be able to eat very little food and be satisfied for a much longer period of time. This may not sound like much but trust me, it is. When you're not hungry you're no longer pre-occupied with food and when you're satisfied on little food it makes it very easy to stick to band sized portions and as a result loose weight.

Have a look at this link, I think it'll help: http://drsimpson.net/fills/Lap-band-eating/lap-band-not-restriction/lap-band-and-restriction.html

Best wishes!

[sugiesug 3]

Thank you all so very much, I will start today and try one meal one day at a time to do better, I really appreciate the advice it was dead on. Again thank you so much

[LeeB1946 261]

I hope your surgeon had you visit a mental health specialist of some sort before surgery. If you did see someone you might contact them again for some suggestions. I find writing down my thoughts, good and bad, and my food choices and amounts sometimes helps me. There is probably nothing I can't eat, but there are some things I chose not to eat. You are headed in the right direction. I get a lot of help and support from my surgical support groups as well as my 3 times per week Overeaters Anonymous meetings.

[Lori Voss Green 93]

I am 10 months post op and STILL get upset if my scale goes back up. It's a fight and struggle I have within myself daily. I am sure I ALWAYS will. Depression is something I have battled my entire life though. However, I went into this battle knowing it wouldn't be easy. I did not get to 304 pounds overnight, and I knew I wouldn't get to my goal weight overnight either.......although I sure wish I could! I had a doctor's visit today and was complaining that I ONLY lost 12 lbs in the last month. Yes, you read that right. How silly is that!? It's because it is a mental battle with myself. Of course 12 lbs in a month is something to Celebrate, and I am thrilled with that. However, there will always be that part of my brain that is telling myself it's not good enough. It's something we have to learn to live with and fight back against.

You are doing amazing. We all have slips. We all stumble. It's not how many times you fall down, it's how many times you get back up.