Found out tonight, this is one journey I will have to conquor on my own

[Justaprettyface 45]

I'm going to rant a bit. I'll be scheduling my surgery this week. I am so excited. This is a long time coming. While out for Mother's Day dinner, I mention to my husband (as he kept pushing me to try something that I had no interest in eating) I said no, and I'm hoping going forward you will not try and sabotage me, but be helpful & supportive.

I went over all the changes we'll need to make as a family, and his response " I'm sorry, I like to eat, and enjoy dining out". I just zipped up for the rest of the night. He's always making me feel bad. I am strong, and my kids are supportive... I'll kick butt!!'

[shady2121 74]

It is really hard, Not every one will support you. This is something you are doing for you. I do have support, my husband has the band too. But he eats ice cream at night. I do not. I reach for my sugar free fudgsicle instead if I want something sweet. My sister thinks I am going to go overboard and be too thin, I weigh 183 on a good day and would like to get to 150 my goal. She thinks I will be too thin. You will need to make the changes for you, not any one else. it is not easy but it is so worth it. Especially shopping in the normal peoples section. Good Luck.

[Justaprettyface 45]

Thanks Shady! I've fought breast cancer & won. I will fight this too! This is for me. I want to reduce my risk for recurrence more than anything bi want to know I've done everything possible to keep this disease from coming back! Plus on a lighter note, no more granny panties is also on the top off my list

[Jennifer Hodge 41]

I am having the same issue with my boyfriend. He LOVES to eat out. If his wallet would handle it he would eat out every meal every day. I am currently on day six of my two week liquid diet and he has gone out everyday. It's hard to go out to eat and either just drink Water or bring a Protein Shake with me. If I don't go out to eat with him he gets offended and acts like I don't want to do anything with him. I do have other supporters but the one I live with and spend the most time with doesn't want to budge on his eating habits to help with mine. This is something I am doing for myself it would be nice to have supporters in my home. Good luck with everything.

[dylanmiles23 2,198]

Good luck. Sorry to hear your husband isn't 100% behind you. About eating out. I do it a real lot except for Breakfast. If my husband wants breakfast out he goes alone or I have my shake at home and with him have hot tea. I eat at most restaurants and do great. I order from the kid's menu alot or bring home my left overs. I don't order steaks because I don't like reheated steak but salmon, Chinese food and Italian are fine reheated.

I never have sandwiches or burgers with rolls but I do eat great restaurant breads (just the crust).

My MIL loves to eat out and we take her out all the time (she treats).

[mrsto 2,925]

I hate when I hear that husbands/boyfriends aren't supportive. To hear that some can't put it on hold for a (relatively) short period of time, seems really selfish and self indulgent. Maybe I'm just spoiled, being married to a man who holds my best interests at heart (as I do his).

The reality is, restaurant eating is only an issue in the beginning. After you move to the soft food phase, you can pick things off the menus that work with your plan. My husband and I support each other fully, on all of our endeavors. But if I felt that we could NEVER eat out again, I myself wouldn't like it. Maybe your husband isn't clear that the eating out part is only temporary? Just a thought.....

[mrsto 2,925]

PS: It will take significant others a bit to fully understand what's involved with their banded partner. As much as I kept telling my husband that I can't have this or that, he kept offering up suggestions "ooh, you're on soft food, you can have X-Y-Z". I had to KEEP telling him, no.....I can't. He was only trying to help, but it was annoying. We worked this out over the weeks since being banded, and now, if he sees me eating a little too fast, he'll mention that I should probably slow down.....he doesn't want me to get sick.

It's an adjustment not only for us, but those we live with. It may take a little time, but if they truly have your best interest at heart, they'll catch on

[ChicagoRose 650]

You will STILL be able to eat out!! I was worried that I was going to become a debbie downer to my husband but everything has been the same and great. The only change is that I can't eat as much as I used to and I chose different things, Portion Control has been awesome for me, but I still eat pretty much what I have always eaten. It is a life change but a sustainable one. Check out my blog!