Confused, upset

[mellsztav 1]

When I was on week 2 I was on full fluids.

My surgeon gave me the following guidelines to follow:

Week 1 - Clear Fluids

Week 2 - Full Fluids

Week 3 - Mushie / pureed foods

Weed 4 - "Normal" Solid foods

I would check with your surgeon's office to see if they have a sample menu you can follow.

Tom' date=' Toronto

Banded July 6 06

Wt. Loss; 156 lbs[/quote']

Ok will do. Thanks

[mellsztav 1]

It does get better. I promise! Hang in there.

I hope. I really do. Thanks ???Š

[mellsztav 1]

here i thought i was gonna read you ate like a couple of pizza's...well whats done is done my friend...so forget it and move on. if you were hungry (was it because you were truly hungry) or did you just think you were aka head hunger? .....2 weeks post op' date=' what phase does your dr have you on?.....if you are hungry, drink some Protein (if you are on liquids still)...

i would say to eat more filling foods as that helps you not be soo overly hungry and def drink alot... (bread is not very filling in my opinion). i love subway too..i have a 6in tuna last night.....ate the tuna and fed the 6in bread to my dobermans......

hang in there as steph says it will get better/easier [/quote']

I know, im on the mushy phase. For a month. I just don't know what to do i try. I want to loose weight. But yesterday i was away from home. There was a caffeteria and they didnt have anything healthy. I skipped Breakfast because i was in a rush. My stomach was grumbling so i did the mistake of ordering a bacon egg and cheese. ???£???£???£

[mellsztav 1]

at this stage I would eat cream Soups any time I was hungery and tht worked until I felt better and got a couple of fills. I emptied the house and took different route to and from places to not go by the fast food places' date=' I carried a pre make protient shake in the car to fall back on. I did best by setting myself up to success. telling the kids no junk food in the shouse any more, no Peanut Butter till I could handle it. 1-2 lbs a week is the best way to loss and keep it off. set yourself up to win this and don't beat yourself up for food you wish you hadn't eaten life happens. track your food it all comes down to cslories in and cslories burned off just like any other diet only this gives you and extra helping hand.[/quote']

Thank you.

[mellsztav 1]

protein' date='protein,protein and Water, water,water

Protein is whats goingmto keep you from chewing off your arm.

Greek yogurt, creamed Soups with greek yogurt added in(boost the protein). My fave was Tomato with yogurt. Low fat ricotta cheese, cottage cheese and eggs are good in the protein dept.

Really hungry, have a cup of hot Decaf tea,my fave is Chai and diet hot chocolate a good go to.

Right now it is mind over matter. You gotta make up your mind that you really want this and you're willing to suffer through the hunger.

Do things to keep busy and your head busy. Clean closets,drawers, cabinets, whatever it takes to not sit around thinking of food.< /p>

BTW. I'm 6 1/2 mths out and can still eat anything I want, just smaller portions, smaller bites and chewing it to mush.

You can do this! Tell your mind to shut the hell up.lol[/quote']

Lol, thanks i will deff get over this. ☺

[mellsztav 1]

From your post' date=' I think that the most important thing you need to do, is not beat yourself up for this. That intense type of guilt can ultimately have a very negative effect on your ongoing progress. None of us here are perfect people, and do not ALWAYS make the perfect choice every waking day. I once had a diet doctor tell me that he wasn't so concerned about me being a good dieter, as much as I needed to get right back on track after a slip. I would venture to say that most all of us who got to the point of WLS, have not been so great at getting right back on track (prior to surgery). I do know how you feel, though. Just don't let the negative thinking sabotage the big picture. As Carolinagirl said, you didn't eat a couple of pizzas! You knew you momentarily stepped off your program, and got right back. THAT is the name of the long term success game.

I'm only a little over 5 weeks out, and I've had 2-3 days where I felt out of control with food. I still stayed within my weight loss range of calories, but I let the number go to 1200 instead of the 1000 I'm sticking to. And I will tell you (so you try & always be prepared), that those days were days that I let myself get ravenous before I was able to eat. Once I'm to that point, even when I'm satiated with my small meal, my brain goes on a mission to keep going. You will learn as you go along; we all do. Just try & stay off your own case, be honest with yourself WITHOUT beating the crap out of yourself [/quote']

☺ Thanks will do!

[mellsztav 1]

You can go to a bookstore and buy a nutrition book. It's a good place to start since I can't afford a nutritionist ...... 6-8 lbs a month is healthy weight loss. So if u slow down its natural u had wls not cosmetic remember that. Lipo is fast results. This will take time and patience. So plan on looking fabulous on your 22nd bday and for now just "feeling" fabulous that u made a decision to take care of yourself for your 21st bday! good luck!

It will be disappointing to spend my 21st birthday still in the obese category. I really wanted to go all out there and buy things i've always wanted to wear. But i guess i just have to move on. Especially because my birthday is in june. The beginning of summer. Very very upsetting. I'm so upset and disappointed. :'(

[Littledog 28]

Oh please don't beat yourself up so much! No one is perfect. I am 2.5 years out and have lost 178 lbs. This is what I've learned, and it took me a loooonnnng time to learn this.

1. Working with your band to lose weight is a mind game. At least it was for me. It took me over a year to understand this. You can not eat what you used to and in the way you used to and lose weight.

2. Keep your focus on your goal(s). I hope that you have written down specific, managable goals.

3. Everyone's weight loss journey is different. People will post huge weight losses in the first 6 months, but let's see, in the first 6 months, I only lost about 50 lbs.

So, I guess everything goes back to #1 if you read carefully.

Get tough, don't let anyone (including yourself!) stand in your way. You can do this.

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

I know, im on the mushy phase. For a month. I just don't know what to do i try. I want to loose weight. But yesterday i was away from home. There was a caffeteria and they didnt have anything healthy. I skipped Breakfast because i was in a rush. My stomach was grumbling so i did the mistake of ordering a bacon egg and cheese. 😣😣😣

everything is able to be eaten.

some choices are better than others..

and sometimes you just gotta make due.

and skipping meals is crazy..never works huh..

as we all have done that...so eat...if you are

really hungry, eat...

no food is off limits..so dont fret.

maddawg is right, Protein keeps you full.

[Cedri 33]

I'm 2 weeks out too and well, you're a braver soul than I taking bites of bread. I mean I've done mushed up chicken curry and rice, but breads I haven't the courage to touch yet. Look on the bright side though! Ya learned somethin'!

[mrsto 2,925]

It will be disappointing to spend my 21st birthday still in the obese category. I really wanted to go all out there and buy things i've always wanted to wear. But i guess i just have to move on. Especially because my birthday is in june. The beginning of summer. Very very upsetting. I'm so upset and disappointed. :'(

You will have MANY more birthdays, and certainly more milestone birthdays. Try & focus on something more positive! You took this giant step to get healthy, now relax and allow the changes to happen. All of this "upset" you're putting yourself through is counterproductive. Maybe focus on how great you will feel on your 25th birthday!!!

[Cindy2013 99]

At 2 weeks out I was ravenous and it didn't make sense why we couldn't have food.< /p>

My assumption was that the reason we couldn't eat solids was that food would get stuck and it would hurt. The two times I cheated, that didn't happen so I was thinking maybe I would be okay if I skipped the blended foods and went right to soft foods. So me being new around here and not educated enough, I asked the question of why we couldn't eat solids. I was shocked that I had made it all the way through surgery without being told the why.

Apparently the band is stitched to our stomach. Everything we put into our stomach, causes the stomach to move. Clear Liquids are easier, full liquids requires a little more work from the stomach, and with each stage the stomach has to work harder to process that food. When the stomach works, it moves, and that can cause the stitches to fail. So at one week, when the band has not scarred in at all, we can only have clear liquids. The band gradually scars in more and more, which is why we gradually eat different textures. By 5 weeks out, it should be secured in place well enough that it won't slip when we introduce regular foods.

Well, the light bulb went on for me! In my mind, I could handle a little discomfort or pain from eating the wrong foods, but I certainly didn't want to damage my band.

I agree with the ideas the others gave you, other than the Greek Yogurt--nasty! Yuck! But give me other yogurts and I like them. We each have our own tastes. I enjoyed puddings (some sugar free, some not). When I didn't know what to eat, I would rely on a Protein Shake until coming up with something more nutritional. Blended Soups were good during the third week. I enjoyed blended raviolis even. That first 4 weeks post op were difficult to come up with things to eat. I've only lost a total of 25 pounds since I began this journey, but I go weigh again next week. I've struggled with just not feeling well, no energy, and so I'm not getting much exercise in. It is difficult to lose when I'm laying in bed all the time. Gotta get on top of that. I'm afraid that your June goal may be a bit unrealistic, but by that time you should be able to go down a couple of sizes and buy a fabulous outfit for your birthday. Just not a bikini yet.

[CanCan1791 57]

Okay I'm going to paraphrase one of my favorite stories for you. I hope I can get this point across in a couple of sentences because this story was a biography of a prisoner of war. Sorry, I don't remember the name of the guy or the book. Anyway, this guy was a prisoner of war in Vietnam for six years. He lived in a tiger cage, almost starved to death and was tortured on a regular basis. Even though he had been a prisoner the longest, most of the other prisoners died.

When asked in an interview what was it about him that made him survive, while so many others died, this was his answer. He said, I knew one day I would be freed. Others, would arrive a say, "We'll be out by Christmas" or "I gotta be home for my kid's birthday". When those days came and they were still there, they would start to deteriorate and die within months. My goal was to be free but I never set a time.

Keep doing the work and one day you will be at your goal weight.

[Lapbandster 496]

PLEASE don't try losing 58 lbs in one month... 4 lbs/month is good, anything more is excellent but don't set your expectations so high or you may feel let down!

If I'm reading correctly, you're hoping to lose 58 lbs in a month and a half? That seems like an unrealistic expectation to me.