A pleasant surprise

[i (used to) love candy 22]

i was banded 12/11/12 and have been doing ok. I spent last month playing with the same two pounds...ugh. Had my 3rd fill this past Monday. Spent the day shopping today with my daughter. She convinced me to try a black eyelet lace dress on so I grabbed a large and off I went. I started taking it off the hanger and noticed it was a medium but decided to give it a try. Much to my surprise it fit!!!!!!!! My daughter then said to me, "can I get that surgery?" (she is almost 19 and is obese as well). Not sure where to go from here......

[2muchfun 8,927]

You would know if she's prepared for this? You already know how hard it is and the sacrifices we make in the beginning? Can she make the leap?

You also know that she needs to be ready just like you were?

tmf

[line-dancer 810]

so true but good for you and the work you have done. isn't fun losing weight now when it actually works and the weight comes off.

[hely88 883]

Congrats on your success. You are setting a good example for your daughter taking care of yourself.

[ali is changing 14]

Let her! Don't let her spend her 20's fat like I did. I wish I had a more understanding mom. Congratulations on the medium! Amazing feeling I'm sure

[kll724 3,055]

Congratulations on your NSV. If you feel that your daughter can succeed and understands the ins/outs etc of lapband, then if she is approved by insurance, it might be right for her! I agree with ali is changing and tmf. Best wishes.Karen

[Summerrain 520]

Nice NSV and maybe take your daughter to some seminars, she is seeing what you're going through. Ask her if she would be able to deal with it all. And yes if you can help her get to a healthy weight at this young age then it's a great idea. Or maybe ask her to work with you, follow what you are eating and exercise together then if she has really given it her best shot and didn't succeed help her look into banding.

My daughter is 15 and my sons 15 and 18 they are all within a healthy weight range. From the day they were born I made it my goal for them to never have weight issues ( highly likely as I did have issues). I kept them active from a really young age and encouraged them to find a sport they loved and would stick too. My daughter choose gymnastics ( been doing it since she was six) she has a beautiful slender strong body, my sons choose rugby and archery ( both fit and muscular), I also cooked every meal, rarely bought them take out and always encouraged them to eat fresh fruit, it's paid off thank god even though I didn't follow my own rules. Lately my daughter has started nagging me about buying her some skinny tea program to loose weight. I keep telling her no and to not start with fad diets ( she doesn't need to loose anything but her friends are all doing it), I keep reinforcing that she needs to eat good Protein, vegetables and hardly any processed foods as she needs good clean foods for the 12 hours of hard training she does every week and if she starts these stupid fad diets her sport will suffer and she can start to mess up her metabolism ( what happened to me over the years).

Teach your daughter what she should and shouldn't be eating , I know she is old enough to know but we tend to loose the idea of what's good and what's not, work together as each others support.

Best wishes to you both.

[Rojasanoll 920]

If she qualifies, Why Not! Let her go for it, she's young and you can have a walking/exercise buddy for life. This is a good thing!

Best wishes

[hely88 883]

I have been thinking about this.i think she needs to try really hard on another plan before choosing band. Good exercise and healthy eating. We all had to go through this and she is so young to do something drastic without really working to change her life first. Just my opinion the band should not be a first choice. You are talking many many years with the band. Not to be taken lightly.

[i (used to) love candy 22]

Thanks to everyone for your comments etc. I, truly want what is best for her. I will help her in any way I can. I will assist her in any path she takes. I feel responsible in many ways for her weight. I tried to instill a positive relationship with food for both of my kids but they each have issues with food. My son is within a healthy weight range.... I have been obese for as long as I can remember. I know that the desire to get healthy has to be her decision.

[bgirling 3]

I agree she should try to lose by eating healthy and exercising, but if she can't keep the weight off, then go for the band. I was banded on April 5, and I wish I would have done this a long time ago. My entire life has been a struggle with my weight, and as I look back I was big all thru my 20's, 30's and so on. I'm now ready for the new me!

[Riah.815.d 1]

My suggestion; let her begin the process of getting a band. It doesn't happen overnight it takes about 4-6 months for the actual surgery. Have her try to lose the weight within those 4-6 months prior to surgery on her own, if she see's results then it's never too late to cancel the surgery but if she doesn't lose the weight than she has the surgery to fall back on. I agree 100% that 19 is young to have the surgery and most of the times (at that age) you're not ready to make that commitment, but since you have also had the surgery it might work in her favor since she will have you to excersize and diet with. You's can support and help eachother. Also; there are many people over the age of 25 who have had the surgery and still struggle and fall behind. Not to mention that bariatric surgery can also be healthy; it eliminates any chances of being diagnosed with diabetes.

[Anume 937 314]

Been obese from age 14 found out I was a diabetic at age 18 had surgery at age 29 if I coulda had it done at her age I would of! ! Let her have it

[sparkles502 22]

I'm currently 24 and looked into this procedure when I was 20. I wish I would have done it sooner!!! Encourage her to really consider it! She has a role model and support system right in front of her!!!

[Rgreen99 21]

I'm 15 years old and my surgery is set for June 4th, 2013 and I am incredibly excited about this! I don't know how old your daughter is, but there are so many benefits my doctor told me about getting the lap band young. You should really look into it for her. Congratulations on your success!