crazy11777 78 Posted April 12, 2013 Welp I have been banded for almost two weeks, and have been doing well with my food intake. Luckily my MD is "aggressive" [his words] with getting me back to solid food, which has been going well! BUT I am so emotional!!! The last few days I have just been down in the dumps, and emotional about the change. Craving foods that I shouldn't eat, which I haven't gave in to. Is this normal? Food has always been my friend, my confidant, and go to when I am emotional, and now I am trying to break up with it..... at least this is how I feel. Like our relationship is breaking up.... I know kind of sick huh? I want this so bad, and I will succeed! I may fall sometimes, or trip up but I really do want this to work and am willing to give it my all! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrsto 2,925 Posted April 13, 2013 Mourning is part of the process. I'm sure you will have MANY people respond, telling you that they went through the same thing. It's a huge change. I'm 18 days out, and have had some weepy moments as well. Yesterday I was ready to chuck the whole thing; I was so depressed. I THINK that I should feel elated; I'm dropping weight, the surgery is over, I'm on a path to a healthier life, etc. But I've been very low energy, and just blah! I think also, surgery and all that goes with it, takes a toll on our bodies. You're less than two weeks out, and I think the assault to your body is part of it. But the mourning for the loss of your best friend, food, is very real. Those feelings will probably come and go, but it will get better. Especially when you start dropping sizes! Hang in there.....you are not alone. 4 hely88, flrosie, zinhaa and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Giselle215 8 Posted April 13, 2013 I'm so jealous of both of you. I'm still pre-op. dreading how long they will make me wait til I get approved and can actually get my surgery. I wish you both the best but NEVER GIVE UP!!! You CAN do this and you WILL do this!!! 1 mrsto reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CHEZNOEL 4,061 Posted April 13, 2013 This is a normal reaction to the surgery. Hang in there, and keep the faith. 2 Maddysgram and zinhaa reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Terry Poperszky 2,784 Posted April 13, 2013 Yup, perfectly normal. It will pass, but will be back and back and back and back. I'm a little over three months and normally don't have a problem, but last night it was all I could do not to stuff everything I could find down my throat. I gave in (a little) counted the calories and moved on. Besides, if you think you are emotional now, wait until you see the scale go up instead of down because you ate garbage. 1 mrsto reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KYgirl29 1 Posted April 13, 2013 Welp I have been banded for almost two weeks' date=' and have been doing well with my food intake. Luckily my MD is "aggressive" [his words'] with getting me back to solid food, which has been going well! BUT I am so emotional!!! The last few days I have just been down in the dumps, and emotional about the change. Craving foods that I shouldn't eat, which I haven't gave in to. Is this normal? food has always been my friend, my confidant, and go to when I am emotional, and now I am trying to break up with it..... at least this is how I feel. Like our relationship is breaking up.... I know kind of sick huh? I want this so bad, and I will succeed! I may fall sometimes, or trip up but I really do want this to work and am willing to give it my all! I also am almost 2 weeks out. I have has some of the same feelings, so you are not alone. I also am very weepy. I had a total knee replacement just 5 weeks before my band surgery. I appreciate your sharing. It helped me. Hang in there. We're all in this together. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Terry Poperszky 2,784 Posted April 13, 2013 I had a total knee replacement just 5 weeks before my band surgery. I appreciate your sharing. It helped me. Hang in there. We're all in this together. KY, keep up with your PT on the knee replacement. I have had both done and PT is the key, work through the pain. They really gave me back my life. 1 sapcat54 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Toddy 758 Posted April 13, 2013 I think one of the keys to wls is to have your "head" in the right place. I think that is a large part of the reason that insurance requires the "psych" visit. If you have an emotional attachment to food, you might want to talk to a professional. I actually started reasearching wls for my daughter, but realized the need to have your head in the right place, which she didn't have at the time... but I did. I LOVE not being able to eat much. I go out to dinner, and take home enough left overs for another couple of meals. 1 flrosie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hely88 883 Posted April 13, 2013 Stay strong! You can do it hang in there!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrsto 2,925 Posted April 13, 2013 I think that all the preparing; therapy, classes, etc. gives us the tools for the hard times. But I do not believe that most of us lost the emotional attachment to food prior to surgery. And knowing something logically in your head, is OH SO DIFFERENT than living it. All the preparedness doesn't fix our relationship with food. It's getting through each day, finding ways to get through the times when we just want to shove it in with both hands. Some days are smooth sailing, and others are a very bumpy ride. I don't know that I will ever resolve my emotional attachment to food. But what I CAN do, is find alternatives to deal with it. I may not win every single time, but it's what happens most of the time that matters. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zinhaa 363 Posted April 13, 2013 your in good company. it will pass. If it comes back it will pas again. Wendy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
heathernl 9 Posted April 13, 2013 Very normal. It comes and goes. I love food and I mourn it often. Sad but true. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emidastwin 22 Posted April 13, 2013 Actually talked about this with my primary care doctor today and he also explained that not only is this a time of great change in our relationship with food but that also the body is adjusting to the new model of life and that is done through our hormones. So yes the weepy time is quite normal. I am just a little over 3 weeks out from my banding and have had those moody days also. Down 24 lbs and am so thrilled with the energy level I am now having. I actually look forward to exercising and go start sweating instead of weeping. Good luck, stay strong and know that there are plenty of supporters out here for you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites