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I'm 27weeks pregnant and only 37weeks banded. As I enter my third trimester, I am getting very depressed and having a very hard time remembering all the progress I've made. Before getting pregnant, I lost 43lbs. Since then, I've lost an additional 22lbs. While being pregnant, I went from size 22 pants (originally 28) down to a size 18. I love being pregnant and feeling this life growing and moving inside me. HOWEVER - even though the scales don't say I've gained ANY pounds... I feel humongous. I'm almost filling out my 22s again. My baby bump doesn't look like a baby bump to me. All I see is all the weight I've lost protruding from my gut laughing at me. My husband is an amazing support and tells me regularly how beautiful I am - without being prompted either =) But I still feel myself sinking down into a deep depression. I don't want to go through the last 3 months of my pregnancy feeling any kind of resentment towards my son. My heart breaks daily for the feelings I've been having... but I don't know how to turn it off. Rationally, logically, I know that any size difference is my little boy growing strong and healthy. But my head telling my hormones and other emotions doesn't really work. My husband telling me doesn't work. My band-counselor doesn't work. I'm at a loss. My heart hurts.

Any similar experiences? Any advice?

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Just think of it this way... A minor bump in the road and just as soon as you have the baby you can get back on track to losing the weight you want. And you don't have much longer till then. Hang in there :)

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Maybe this will help: with my first child, back in the dark ages, I started at 141, lost down to 112 and ended up at 136 when I went into labor. When I was discharged I weighed 117. It's BABY that accounts for your bulk, not you. Relish this time and eat properly. Your baby will gain about a half pound per week the last 8 weeks...so should you. Congrats on your new baby and for your incredible weight loss!

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You are not alone! I am having this same issue. I lost 97 lbs before getting pregnant so I have hanging skin on my stomach...I've gained about 45 lbs since being pregnant and getting half of my Fluid taken out. I am growing appropriately and not measuring big or anything, but I very much still just feel fat even though I really do look pregnant.

It's a big struggle to go from focusing so much on getting smaller to being okay with getting bigger! My only advice is to remember that pregnancy is temporary and try to enjoy your growing body! It's doing amazing things on the inside right now, even if you feel gross on the outside :) That's what I try to remind myself!

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I am down to the last 4 weeks of my pregnancy. I was banded April 2012, lost 40 pounds and got pregnant in August. ( I think the weight loss aided in conception). I have gained about 25 lbs over my pregnancy, but all I focus on is eating nutrient rich food. I find I still can't eat a large amount of food, even after having a defill at 5 months. I have continued to work out all pregnancy to be ready to get back to my weightless , after the baby, after the c-section. Be kind to yourself and treat your body like the 'temple' it is. Eventually you will get back to focusing on yourself. Gods luck.

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I am down to the last 4 weeks of my pregnancy. I was banded April 2012' date=' lost 40 pounds and got pregnant in August. ( I think the weight loss aided in conception). I have gained about 25 lbs over my pregnancy, but all I focus on is eating nutrient rich food. I find I still can't eat a large amount of food, even after having a defill at 5 months. I have continued to work out all pregnancy to be ready to get back to my weightloss, after the baby, after the c-section. Be kind to yourself and treat your body like the 'temple' it is. Eventually you will get back to focusing on yourself. Good luck.[/quote']

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I am down to the last 4 weeks of my pregnancy. I was banded April 2012, lost 40 pounds and got pregnant in August. ( I think the weight loss aided in conception). I have gained about 25 lbs over my pregnancy, but all I focus on is eating nutrient rich food. I find I still can't eat a large amount of food, even after having a defill at 5 months. I have continued to work out all pregnancy to be ready to get back to my weightless , after the baby, after the c-section. Be kind to yourself and treat your body like the 'temple' it is. Eventually you will get back to focusing on yourself. Gods luck.

I am 32 weeks prego and have not had an unfill... i saw you did not either and probably have already had your baby. Do you have to get completely unfilled if having a c-section?

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