About to pay the deposit but...

[Wanna-Be-Healthy 46]

About to pay the deposit but I'm so nervous and my leg won't stop shaking. I'm petrified of failing or being one of those bandsters that don't lose.

Am I making the right decision?

30 y/o 5"6 240lbs with 100lbs to lose.

[Terry Poperszky 2,784]

We can't answer that for you. All I can tell you is this is one of the better decisions I have made in my life. I am almost twice your age and I will tell you right now, going through most of your life being morbidly obese is not the way to live life.

[newbeebee 23]

About to pay the deposit but I'm so nervous and my leg won't stop shaking. I'm petrified of failing or being one of those bandsters that don't lose.

Am I making the right decision?

30 y/o 5"6 240lbs with 100lbs to lose.

That was me only a few weeks ago - alot of money and scary to think you are "wasting" it on yourself. You cannt be successful if you dont try!, I am having my surgery Tuesday - still scared but committed to try my very hardest.

[line-dancer 810]

^{only u know if your ready it h was been the best thing I every did for myself. It is a diet along with the band. Can you clean out your house from the junk food? can you stay on a plan? can you track all your food...if u said yes then you can do it..you have a better chance to losse weight with the bsnd then any other way so do it}

[Wanna-Be-Healthy 46]

^{only u know if your ready it h was been the best thing I every did for myself. It is a diet along with the band. Can you clean out your house from the junk food? can you stay on a plan? can you track all your food...if u said yes then you can do it..you have a better chance to losse weight with the bsnd then any other way so do it}

I'm so happy to hear your positive experience line-dancer. that's great.

I'm scared because, as many here, I've failed on every other diet. How will this be different??

[Wanna-Be-Healthy 46]

That was me only a few weeks ago - alot of money and scary to think you are "wasting" it on yourself. You cannt be successful if you dont try!, I am having my surgery Tuesday - still scared but committed to try my very hardest.

I'm glad to here that you feel better as you approach your surgery date. Good Luck!

[2muchfun 8,927]

Unknown forum member comment:

"In my case, the most fearful thing I had to do in order to succeed with my band wasn't switching to skim milk, surviving a liquid diet, or giving up bread. The most fearful thing was giving up my emotional attachment to food. In the nearly 5 years since I was banded, I've made a lot of progress with that, but the attachment is still there. It forms one of the innermost layers of my turtle shell. Working on that layer will probably be a lifetime job for me. At times I'm not even sure I truly want to get rid of it altogether. At times I'm afraid that if I shed my shell completely, I won't be able to survive. On the other hand, I seem to be doing fine without that thick old b***h layer. So I'm going to pay attention to my dreams rather than my fears and pray for a miracle. And why not? It can't hurt to try!"

[wildrose1966 396]

I am one of those bandsters who is a very slow loser and not at restriction after 6 months. Regrets - not at all. In 6 months I have never once gained a pound, just losing very slow.

[Wanna-Be-Healthy 46]

We can't answer that for you. All I can tell you is this is one of the better decisions I have made in my life. I am almost twice your age and I will tell you right now, going through most of your life being morbidly obese is not the way to live life.

We can't answer that for you. All I can tell you is this is one of the better decisions I have made in my life. I am almost twice your age and I will tell you right now, going through most of your life being morbidly obese is not the way to live life.

Thanks Terry. You are always a source of reason.

Like I said above, my concern stems from the fact that I have, like many, failed on all other diets. Isn't this why we are all here? That's my biggest fear!

[2muchfun 8,927]

We can't answer that for you. All I can tell you is this is one of the better decisions I have made in my life. I am almost twice your age and I will tell you right now, going through most of your life being morbidly obese is not the way to live life.

So, if you're going to keep posting as if you were in my mind, I'm just going to stop posting and "Like" all of your comments It'll save me a lot of time

tmf

[Terry Poperszky 2,784]

Thanks Terry. You are always a source of reason.

Like I said above, my concern stems from the fact that I have, like many, failed on all other diets. Isn't this why we are all here? That's my biggest fear!

Like I said, almost twice your age which means I have probably failed at twice as many diets as you This can be different, all you have to do is remember that the band is a tool, it is not your master. If you want something that will help you succeed where you have failed in the past, you are in the right place. If you are looking for something that will force you to succeed and force you to not break the rules, then let me know when you find it.

[Veronica68 81]

For me the hardest part about being banded is not the change in food (I have found foods I really like that fit my plan) but the change in the way I have to eat. I have always eaten very very quickly. When the band is at restriction, you must take very small bites and chew chew chew. I still battle with that 3 years later. Also beware it will take time to get to "restriction". Seems like for lots of people its around the 3rd fill, was for me, and I have read that in many posts. That puts you at about 4 months post op. Until then you are in what is affectionatly called "bandster hell". The time between surgery and when your fills give you restricion. During that time it's like you don't have a band at all.

As said, only you can make the decision, this is just a little information to help. Best wishes!

[2muchfun 8,927]

For me the hardest part about being banded is not the change in food (I have found foods I really like that fit my plan) but the change in the way I have to eat. I have always eaten very very quickly. When the band is at restriction, you must take very small bites and chew chew chew. I still battle with that 3 years later. Also beware it will take time to get to "restriction". Seems like for lots of people its around the 3rd fill, was for me, and I have read that in many posts. That puts you at about 4 months post op. Until then you are in what is affectionatly called "bandster hell". The time between surgery and when your fills give you restricion. During that time it's like you don't have a band at all.

As said, only you can make the decision, this is just a little information to help. Best wishes!

Aint it the truth? I'm 1 yr 3 months out and I'm finally getting it down but still have my moments when I get too hungry or distracted and fall back into old habits.

I'm sure there were similar posts on this site when I was banded but I completely missed the bandster hell comments and that it would take 3-4 months to find some kind of restriction. No regrets, but 4 months of BH for me was pure torture but now just an unpleasant memory.

[ItsBritneyB 39]

I am the bandster that didn't lose (for long). Well, I lost 70 lbs at first but then I stopped following the rules and found ways to cheat the band. I gained it all back. I am starting my journey over. You can do it! Stay focused. Best of luck.

[ItsBritneyB 39]

I'm so happy to hear your positive experience line-dancer. that's great.

I'm scared because, as many here, I've failed on every other diet. How will this be different??

It wont be different if you don't change your mind set. This was one thing I stuggled with. If I had will power I wouldnt need the band in the first place. The best advice I can tell you is listen to your band. Stop when it says stop. I did not do that and it made me sick and it was painful and I gained weight. I have so much regret. Please learn from my mistakes. Don't waste this wonderful gift.