divorce

Mita · April 24, 2006

It seemed the more I lost or his family noticed. They would always comment that he was gaining the weight I was losing. I would always tell him he looked fine to me. I am unconditional I did not care if he was rounder or more rounder. But I guess he did! He would do everything to sabatoge me or if I could not join him in eating out he would go by himself. As the year went on 2005 I was left more alone - at first he would take the boys while I went on errands - then it got to the point he would not even take them but push for me to take them. I would always tell him " If someone is going to cheat believe me they will do it with or with out the kids" (We even talked about something like that happening. I always said I would wait till a divorce was over to persue a relationship with someone else). I guess that was his way of showing me that he was unhappy when in the begining he supported me. Slowly issues came up that had always been there but this time they were more extreme. No matter how much I talked to him and told him my feelings he became more reserved and would go out of his way to confrontational. Not physical but more standing his ground even when he knew his was wrong. I do recall one day he said I had changed, I asked him how so and he just said I was different and would not comment. I Love him to this day but it is not the love that makes a marriage work and I wish him all the best but I could not settle for someone that felt insecure about themselves and pushing their feelings on to me..

This is the first time I have really expressed a part of my life that I refused to deal with but with Spring comes a new change. That is my way of thinking. I made a New Years resolution that I was not going to settle for the norm nor were my children going to suffer for their fathers change. I have no clue if he was having a mid lifes crisis or it was my weight. I decided I wanted more out of the life I have left and the man I married changed So I decided to End it. Don't get me wrong there were so many issues this is just one of them.

I hope that anyone out there having issues - talk to your spouse and see if you all can return to the same path you once were on and not take the fork in the road. I really thought I would spend the rest of my life with this man but all things come to an end..