Just not loosing anything

[Beachy_Babs 5]

Hi Betsy,

It has only been a month and like others have stated, it's still the healing stage. Please reconsider removing the band. You have to give it time to really work. I know it can be a bit frustrating not seeing the pounds shed, but remember..the lap band is totally different from gastric bypass. We don't shed a pound a day. More like a pound to 2 a week. It's a gradual thing.

Also, maybe you are not losing as much weight because the band has no restriction. The doctor usually does not fill your band until 6-8 weeks post op so your stomach could get used to the band and not be so swollen.

Trust me, I've had my frustrations, but in the long run, the band has been a blessing.

Good luck to you!

[preciousomorose 5]

To be totally honest hun..I have quite a story myself. However, let me tell you briefly.

I was banded August 2008. Between August 2008 and August 2010, I lost 80 lbs. I got pregnant and my doctor opted to loosen my band to support healthy growth for the baby. In turn, I gained all of it back. Mainly because I lost my baby half way through my pregnancy due to some female troubles with my female organs and this caused me to go into a major depression. So, I ate my pain away once again. I'm not starting back over. In knowing that losing that 80 lbs was NOT easy at all..I kept pushing and to be back at basically where I started does not infuriate me, does not mean I'm a failure, and it does NOT mean I'm weak. Even stil today, I'm a full time graduate student and I also work full time. I have a sickly mother I take care of but yet..I'm still pushing. Please don't allow your daughter to be a crutch for you. Just think, this second opportunity to start at again with a more positive attitude will reap even greater results. You have to have faith in yourself unless no one else will. Just saying. Love you darling, and God bless you and yours! :) :) :)

[chantelleb816 33]

The only reason I lost 30 pounds so quickly was because I couldn't eat and I had a hard time keeping food down at times. Now that I can eat about a month and 1/2 out I haven't lost anything. Don't give up yet. I don't understand why go through the process to give up so soon?

[Baba Wawa 543]

Betsy, how are things going now? Better, I hope. Hang in there...we're all individuals and respond in our own way to the stress of surgery.

Keep us posted, please

[Tiny1234 121]

I fear we might've lost Betsy. Hope not. Betsy, talk to us please.

[dawalsh 919]

To be totally honest hun..I have quite a story myself. However' date=' let me tell you briefly.

I was banded August 2008. Between August 2008 and August 2010, I lost 80 lbs. I got pregnant and my doctor opted to loosen my band to support healthy growth for the baby. In turn, I gained all of it back. Mainly because I lost my baby half way through my pregnancy due to some female troubles with my female organs and this caused me to go into a major depression. So, I ate my pain away once again. I'm not starting back over. In knowing that losing that 80 lbs was NOT easy at all..I kept pushing and to be back at basically where I started does not infuriate me, does not mean I'm a failure, and it does NOT mean I'm weak. Even stil today, I'm a full time graduate student and I also work full time. I have a sickly mother I take care of but yet..I'm still pushing. Please don't allow your daughter to be a crutch for you. Just think, this second opportunity to start at again with a more positive attitude will reap even greater results. You have to have faith in yourself unless no one else will. Just saying. Love you darling, and God bless you and yours! :) :) :) [/quote']

You are a beautiful person Precious and I applaud you for all you've been through. I'll be 65 in May and I was banded 12/28/12. I've been overweight all my life and this was my chance to improve my health. I was pre-diabetic, I had two strokes in 1980 and two brain operations in 1981, I am also an ovarian cancer survivor with a shunt in my brain. I was thrilled when I went for my physicals and psychological evaluation and was told I would qualify for the band. I walk with a cane but I'm walking better since I've lost weight and I would never think of becoming unbanded of course unless there was a medical necessity for it (such as pregnancy but I can't get pregnant anymore). Anyway, good luck to you all and keep the faith.

[Annie1976 11]

I can see both sides here...I was banded 12-18 and have been stuck at 15 pounds since January. It is frustrating to hear other posts from people that had the surgery and then, after becoming g obese from food addiction, etc....then had the surgery and somehow did what I am struggling to do (losing weight consistently) and that is following all the rules despite cravings, emotions, weak mindedness, food issues. All if a sudden the successful have been able to get success through "want power" yet i am struggling even though I promise u I want to lose more for many many reasons.

It's hard to see many posts from people that lost 30 lbs in first month. I'm jealous and I feel like a failure even though most days I'm on target with the plan...but to lose weight for me almost all days have to be on point. I'm 5'8 and 196 and run every day, I'm self pay.

I can see both sides and am happy for everyone's success but I wish I could plant the chip that exists in others' brains into mine to get more "willpower", "want power" or whatever you want to call it. I wish I coul go to a lap and camp for 6 months to help learn everything internally...maybe that's what Betsy meant???