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I'm 9 days post-op and have my first social event tonight. I am petrified. Would decline but its a celebration for a friend and not about me.

My doc said I could start on mushies today but I'm staying with full liquid diet in fear of diarrhea tonight. The problem is that NONE of my friends know. None. I already set the stage and said the we could only stay for an hour but the only thing I can drink is Water there...unless I ask for juice box...which would be very weird.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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If you don't want anyone to know, you could just say you're just getting over a stomach bug and don't want to risk upsetting your stomach now that it's finally calm again. Then no one would question why you're drinking Water.< /p>

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Stick with water... dehydrated from the stomach bug, but did not want to disappoint your friend. It is likely no one will notice. We are much mor aware of our behavior than others. Good luck!

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I'm 7 days post-op and none of my friends/family know either with the exception of my mom... my aunt passed away two weeks ago and we're having a huge memorial service with catered lunch... completly in the same boat and deciding how to avoid lunch time! haha... when i had my surgery, i had a hernia fixed as well so i just tell everyone im recovering from that on a strict diet.... goodluck lady! you'll do great

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If you're normally a wine drinker, you can carry a glass of wine (if I don't drink, people think I'm pregnant!) and pretend to drink it. No one will notice that you are not eating. At my first social event (4 days post-op) i would say things like "This is delicious!" and no one knew I hadn't had any of it. Like ChezNoel said, we are much ,more aware of our actions than others are. Have FUN!

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Oh thank you so much for these great ideas! Lapbandtalk.com is like having a group of wonderful amazing sisters!

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Could always do soup- I do Soup when out with others who do not know about surgery

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Could always do soup- I do Soup when out with others who do not know about surgery

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I went our 2 days after op and was on liquid I had Water and thin Soup had to go it was my parents golden wedding but close family knew but no one else noticed or said anything x

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