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The wait for surgery/approval is killing me!

I’m in the process of qualifying for surgery through my husband’s insurance. They require you to go through 4 months of monitoring and nutrition counseling prior to approval. I went to my first appt Jan 3rd which would put my surgery the first part of May should everything fall right.

At my first appt I asked my patient care advocate if I needed to start trying to get in to shape (walking, eating better, etc) prior to surgery. She said that no, I needed to actually not do ANYTHING, that I needed to try to stay the same weight and not fluctuate at all because the insurance company will be watching my number to see that I can’t lose weight and keep it off on my own. She said it’s very important to NOT try to lose weight right now.

I know that you would think I would be excited – it’s like a free, eat-what-you-want card, right?!?! Well I’m having a hard time with it. I finally have gotten to a point mentally where I WANT this surgery for my HEALTH. I want this surgery so I can get in better shape and run. I want to be able to walk without not being able to breathe. The thought of having to wait until April-May before I can focus on this new, healthy “Me” is really harder than I thought. I’m finding myself making healthier choices on my own…not eating until I’m ready to pop. Not choosing a second helping of something. You would think I’d be proud of myself…and I AM! But my silly little BIG number on my scale is starting to creep down…not cool for insurance purposes!

I’ve been here before - SO motivated to succeed. Actually CRAVING exercise and healthy food, actually WANTING to make better choices…only to lose my willpower in a few short weeks. I am SO tired of this yo-yo and am just ready for the new me…like, YESTERDAY :)

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Hang in there...and be happy your insurance is paying......I'm paying the entire thing out of pocket :( It'll happened, stay focused and keep the bigger picture in mind.....

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Hang in there...and be happy your insurance is paying......I'm paying the entire thing out of pocket :( It'll happened, stay focused and keep the bigger picture in mind.....

Oh you're SO right that I have insurance...I meant to put that in my original post..that I was at least grateful for insurance..I guess I just let my fingers type faster than my brain :)

I AM grateful for insurance and HOPE that they will approve the surgery (won't know until I've completed the 4 months). I have fears that they won't, but I'm still sticking to the plan. My primary insurance absolutely will NOT cover it, so I had my husband add me to his (at $156 a month - ugh!) so my hope is that after I do what they say I must do they won't snake out and deny me since i already have 'other' coverage.

I AM grateful for the chance to get to have insurance to assist with the cost -- 100% grateful!!!

I am just SO ready to get the show on the road :)

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I hear ya with the show on the road, hahaha I'm 2 weeks 4 days away.....

If the insurance doesn't cover it, try to get a loan to pay for it out of pocket.....that's what my husband and I did. So I was struggling initially, with the further debt I'm putting on us, rather than the surgery itself. My husband said, if he wanted to new Harley, I would encourage him to buy it....so he said for me to consider this "my harley"....hahahah, what a good analogy.

Keep posting!

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Wooohoo you're almost there! I like his analogy of a new Harley..and how sexy you'll be on the back of that new Harley when you get to your happy place :)

Good luck with your surgery. I bet now that you have a date the wait is even more hard...like a kid the night before Christmas :)

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I am not sure that paying out of pocket wouldn't be cheaper than your insurance cost per month some doctors have payment plans I would check it out and it might speed up your surgery!

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