To Baby or NOT to Baby

[sweetsam2005 9]

I am currently 5 months out of surgery exactly as of today! My husband and I got married Nov 16th of this year and the hot topic of having a baby has been on the table.

I need some thoughts.

I have only lost 30 lbs and have been plateaued for about 2 1/2 months.... my dieting has been rough. I wanted to get down 90 lbs in my first year so I am way behind. I also have an appt on Thursday to check on my fills.

I know the Surgeons say to wait at least a year before getting pregnant but we just really feel ready.

I am just scared that if we do this then my hard work a d struggles with be for nothing.

I am open to any and all comments at this point. My hear says yes but my brain says tread softly!

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

I think you already know the answer- the surgeon says wait a year. So, you need to wait a year for your own health and safety as much as for the baby's.

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Obviously I do not know you nor is this anyone's decision but your own... however from the outside looking in.... if my Dr told me to wait... I would wait. Not to mention you will be that much farther along in your journey which will lend itself to a healthier pregnancy.

And there is the point of enjoying your life as a newlywed... you will NEVER get that back once you become parents... they call it the honeymoon period for a reason!

Best wishes!

[PattyGirl66 1,243]

My pamphlet instructions from my bariatric surgeon said not to get pregnant for a year! Oh dear lord, I can't imagine getting pregnant at 49. I am already a grandmother to a almost 7 year old, LOLOLOLOL.

You want my old opinion sweety- enjoy your new life being banded first, enjoy your new marriage, enjoy eachother 'first' ... take it from someone who got pregnant as a 'teenager' and missed out!!!

[Lapbandster 496]

I agree with the others

Enjoy your new life and body. Get used to living with the band and get comfortable with the foods you can eat. The last thing you'd need is to be PB'ing throughout your pregnancy (gd forbid). You certainly shouldn't ignore your doctor's advice.

Just my humble opinion

[TheDuchess 106]

Outsiders perspective as I've not been banded yet -

Enjoy the married life! Enjoy the weight loss life! Having different steps and things to look forward to is great - and you may be happy you waited.

We wanted kids about 4 years ago, all of my friends were having babies and we had been married for around 2ish years at that point. We're young, and every morning I sleep in I'm thankful, or when we spontaneously are invited to go out and do something with our non-kiddos friends, or go to the movies every Friday, or plan a kid-free, babysitter-free vacation - I rejoice in our decision to wait.

I've enjoyed the years we've had to bond in our marriage, I suggest you do too - the baby fever will go away (and come back!)

[sweetsam2005 9]

I hate to hear that but I know its right. Just tough.

[ErinMarie 186]

Newly banded people get pregnant by accident all the time! That being said, I would wait a bit longer for you and your body. Pregnancy is a huge change to your body (I'm currently 22 weeks) and if you aren't prepared to deal with the changes mentally, it could make your weight loss stall even more so after the baby is born.

Get more into getting healthy and learn all you can before making such a drastic change physically!

Good luck!

[sweetsam2005 9]

Yeah I really would like to hit my one year goal and then let the chips fall where they may. Its just difficult when we are buying a home and getting settled in and we both are so ready to start a family... who knew it would all play out this way but it did and now I feel tormented between what I want and what I need. I am sure I will wait but it will not be easy.

Plus with my husbands job now is the perfect time to conceive because he will be home when the baby is born all through next winter but timing wise if we tried around my one year mark he wouldn't be.... so it means we are actually waiting a year and a half from surgery and a year from now before we can even start trying.... and who knows if I will even conceive when we need to especially if we are adding the extra pressure....

Do you all see why I am so confused.... my brain is on overload :/