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Yeah I think the clock ticking is an issue. Ever since I was a little girl I had wanted to have my family started by 23 just like my mom did... well I am 25 now and going on 26. I have always told myself I do not want to have kids after 30 so I feel like I am getting too close to that window. Maybe that is part of my wanting to rush it.

I did tell my husband last night that I might need to be selfish and just wait... I really don't want to but I feel like it's the right choice.

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At 23 I would say wait!

I am 25 my husband is 23... my parents were 23 & 25 when they had me so I guess I see from their view it worked out great...

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I am 25 my husband is 23... my parents were 23 & 25 when they had me so I guess I see from their view it worked out great...

I totally understand what you are going threw I hit my 1 year mark November 7 2012, my husband and I had been trying for 5 yrs to conceive and nothing. I decided to have the lap band done and I still have my struggles, my doc wants me lose 45 pounds more before I start again to conceive. I was so upset with myself because having a baby means everything to me I have my own issues with cravings still so I let myself down. Now I'm ready to take back control and get this weight off I just hope and pray it works. The best of luck to you.

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Yeah I think the clock ticking is an issue. Ever since I was a little girl I had wanted to have my family started by 23 just like my mom did... well I am 25 now and going on 26. I have always told myself I do not want to have kids after 30 so I feel like I am getting too close to that window. Maybe that is part of my wanting to rush it.

I did tell my husband last night that I might need to be selfish and just wait... I really don't want to but I feel like it's the right choice.

I know what you mean! I will be 27 on Monday and I feel like I should have already had a baby. My mother had me when she was 21 and I liked having a young mom growing up.

However... For me even a year makes a big difference in my maturity level, my patience, etc. my husband and I have been married for almost two years now but I like the idea of waiting a little longer to focus on us. I'm hoping that by 30 we start trying for kids. Hell, I have so much I want to do after I lose this weight and I don't want kids to stop me lol so I say wait, enjoy your husband, and enjoy yourself as you lose weight and get healthy :)

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