Back on track

[sbox 24]

I'm new to the site. I was banded in April 2010. Starting weight was 272. Total lost is 70 lbs. Goal weight is 155. I found this site because I feel like I need more support. I am married and have 2 kids. My husband is usually supportive but he doesn't want me to get any fills or to go to the gym. He wants me to do it all on my own and not use my band or even the gym as a crutch. I enjoy going to the gym and it really helps me deal with stress. I know that I am an emotional eater and when I get stressed, I always used sweets as a comfort. This fall has been pretty stressful and busy at work and I have been feeling overwhelmed. I haven't been taking care of myself. So, I've slipped back into old habits and I'm feeling pretty down about it. Any advice or support would be helpful.

[wildrose1966 396]

I guess the first question I would have is why your husband is holding you back. It is your band and your body, if you want to get fills or go to the gym, can you? Or does that create further stress?

I would start by going back to the basics and start tracking...........tracking always tells part of the story.

Good luck.

[shady2121 74]

I think you need to talk to your husband and expalin to him why you need to use your band and the gym. Its your life, your health etc. I know its hard to do but you went through the surgery and that was the biggest step. I know when I was younger I took my kids to the school and walked around the field why they played.

[blondegal_ 1,028]

Time for a very honest discussion with your husband. And not about the band. It makes no sense that he doesn't want you to go to the gym. If you don't exercise how else will you lose weight? Then once he understands exercise is necessary for you then have discussions about the band and how it's supposed to work. But overall your husband shouldn't dictate what actions you take to get healthy. And I say healthy not thin. Hope I don't sound harsh just wanted to be short and to the point. Best of luck!

[sbox 24]

He does understand that exercise is important. He wants me to exercise at home. I've gotten Zumba DVDs and P90X DVDs to use at home. I think it might be an insecurity issue on his part. Or it could just be a control issue. I think I just need to work on my assertiveness and stand up for myself.

[Maddysgram 6,159]

My thought is you don't have to go to a gym to get exercise. Take the kids for a walk, ride bikes do workout video's.

Now the fills are a different story. Do you not have the extra money for fills, or is husband just being controling? If you have the money, I'd just do it. The band can't help you if it isn't working properly.

This is about your health , tell hub it was a total waste of thousands of dollars, not working with the band.

Congratulations on the weight loss so far!

Good luck!

[Maddysgram 6,159]

He does understand that exercise is important. He wants me to exercise at home. I've gotten Zumba DVDs and P90X DVDs to use at home. I think it might be an insecurity issue on his part. Or it could just be a control issue. I think I just need to work on my assertiveness and stand up for myself.

I think you're right!

[sbox 24]

Thanks. I am going to make an appointment to go see my dr tomorrow.

[Luckyaka 115]

You need your fills to be successful! You have to do this to be heathy for yourself first and than your hubby and children. I explained to my husband this was something that I had to do for me. I'm being selfish with health and fitness!

[highness38 8]

I dont want to sound harsh. But you have to do what is right for you. You look pretty young and I just wish I had done this 20 years ago and would have had more energy for my kids. They are now grown. So keep up the good work!!!

[mazzak 7]

I'm new to the site. I was banded in April 2010. Starting weight was 272. Total lost is 70 lbs. Goal weight is 155. I found this site because I feel like I need more support. I am married and have 2 kids. My husband is usually supportive but he doesn't want me to get any fills or to go to the gym. He wants me to do it all on my own and not use my band or even the gym as a crutch. I enjoy going to the gym and it really helps me deal with stress. I know that I am an emotional eater and when I get stressed, I always used sweets as a comfort. This fall has been pretty stressful and busy at work and I have been feeling overwhelmed. I haven't been taking care of myself. So, I've slipped back into old habits and I'm feeling pretty down about it. Any advice or support would be helpful.

The whole reason for the band is to give you help. You need to work with your band.. get Fills and go to the Gym otherwise there was no point. Maybe hubby is feeling a bit insecure so isnt as encouraging as you would like.

[Back2Petite 23]

Your exercise regimen is crucial. It should not matter if you exercise at home or the gym..whatever makes you comfortable and motivated. I really don't understand him not wanting you to go to the gym. Is it because of the cost of a gym membership? Anyway, get to the bottom of that with him so you can get your workout on! Best Wishes

[sbox 24]

I made an appointment for a fill. I got the P90X DVDs and I am going to try them out at home. I will work on the hubs and try to get him on the same page.

[shady2121 74]

good job proud of you....