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My husband is also overweight. He was very nervous in the beginning. I think he thought I was going to get skinny and leave him, but then I explained that I was doing this for US. I want to have children, and be healthy while I'm pregnant. And have energy for him and future kids. And live longer, etc. I'm almost 10 months out and have lost 80lbs. I work long hours and when I come home, he has a healthy delicious meal ready. He packs healthy lunches for me every night. He finds yummy healthy Snacks at the grocery store for me. He even encourages good decisions when we eat out. He doesn't snack around me (I know he does after I go to bed). He's stopped getting popcorn at the movies. He does get a bit irritated with my obsessive working out, but he does not complain and rearranges our plans to fit it in. He is wonderful, as always. I hope maybe someday he will decide to have the lapband too.

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My husband went with me on my initial consultation/ first appointment and.is going to be supportive I am sure...he has no weight issue and will probably be like a drill sergeant lil...I used to dance hip hop and teach areobics cannot wait to get to 130-140 goal! Starting at 232 ahhh! #supportive hubbies are the best and discouraging ones are fuel for motivation.

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Mine supports my decision but he won't change his eating habits and don't mind eating all his junk food right in front of me. It's hard but I just get up and go into another room It's also hard to cook all OUR FAV food for him every night. But I do it with a snarled lip

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Mine was less than supportive and is thin. However on my 3rd day post op he had a heart attack. Skinny does not equal healthy in all cases. Since the heart attack and subsequent surgery he has certainly joined the healthy eating club. Sometimes his intervenes

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Well no DH or SO currently but my 18yr old son who's still living at home is supportive though I don't think he fully understands. He's excited that I'll be cooking more as he likes my cooking "even when it's healthy" (his words). But all my family and friends are supportive so only time will tell how this will all turn out.

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My man could do with loosing 10kg and has decided to do my pre op diet with me. I appriciate the support and would struggle to do it without him I think.

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My hubby also joined me on the pre op diet. He gained some weight back over holidays but not as much as he lost. He prob needs to lose 20 more pounds, but when you see him you don't think overweight.

He is supportive in this except he keeps joking I just hope you don't lose it in your chest.

I think since this is new to me I am talking about it too much around him. He doesn't complain but I try not to revolve every conversation around lap band, how my surgery went or my weight loss etc. But it's always on my mind at this point so I make an effort not to verbalize it constantly. I wouldn't want to be around someone who just discussed weight loss. I go back to work tomorrow so that will help. We've both been off together these past 2 weeks.

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My DH is so back and forth. Sometimes it's gung ho, then (more likely) it's telling me I "mutilated" myself and how I'm still fat and haven't lost all the weight. Oh well. He will just have to deal, I"m over it.

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