what I look like?

[acolebr1 18]

While visiting family during Christmas, my cousin kept saying how good i looked, i said thank you,very politely. Then she looked at my husband and said "are you worried?" He replied this is nothing i cant handle...lol. but i was offended. Do they think after i lose the wt. I am going to start running around on him? My health was in jepardy not my marriage! This is not the first time that a family have stated this or something like that. I find i dont want to discuss my weight loss with them. Even at church i been getting unwanted attention. I want to be healthy not get google eyed.

[JimR915 21]

I have these types of exchanges with family and friends all the time, with and without my wife present. It honestly makes me feel good, and my wife and I are secure enough in our marriage that we treat it as the hogwash that it is.

If my wife is present, I'll sometimes joke that she married way below her station, and this is just my way of catching up a little. Probably more truth to that than even I want to admit

Put it into perspective, enjoy the compliments, and just make sure that your husband is secure in knowing what you posted here.

Good luck to you!

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Its funny and sad but my surgeon asked me at my first consult if I was in a strong marriage... was I ever thin in the marriage....basically preparring me that as I changed so might others perceptions... My husband and I discussed it and were prepared for it when it first happened. Beacause you will get oogled and unwanted advances from others. But as long as you are strong to your core and are firm in your responses you should be fine.

In fact now my husband will say...come on... lets go show you off. And he doesnt mean it in a nasty or unusual way... but I think he is just proud of me and wants to share that. He knows who he is going home with.... so do I.

As for your relatives and friends... I might pull them aside and explain how their comments make you uncomfortable and ask them to stop. You can do it in a nice way and if they dont get it... then maybe you dont need to associate with them.

[acolebr1 18]

Thanks guys.