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I'm about to flip out. I am being pressured by my dad to lose my weight. He wants 30kg in 2 months. He wants me work my ass off in this fuckin heat wave of 40.c and makes me eat chilli all because he believes the hot weather and chilli is fast for losing weight. I can't handle hot weather. It drives me crazy to the point of making me wanna kill someone. It makes me mentally unstable. I don't know what to do. He can't except a slow weight loss. My father is the type that will not accept anyone else's ideas or opinions he only believes in what he thinks. My mother was right to divorce him.

I just feel like suiciding at this point. I don't know what to do but maybe turn to drugs to help me forget.

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def call 911 if you are having bad thoughts about hurting yourself and doing drugs to help you forget is just stupid.

you didnt gain weight overnight and it wont be gone overnight..am sorry you are struggling so.

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Do you live with your Dad? If not take a break from seeing him and focus on you.

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Please call 911, I agree with Carolina. But you sound like you are not in USA, so call your emergency #. How old are you? And how much weight do you need to lose? You have never filled out your profile. Can you go to your mother's place? Bless you and I am hoping that th eNew Year brings you a better feeling about yourself!!!

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Take a deep breath and move out. Go to a shelter if you must! You are worth it!

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I'm in Australia I'll do the profile later. Here at the moment it's summer. Thanks for your concern I get like that when I'm exposed to the really hot weather.

I just can't tolerate it it all. I live with my dad but I am thinking of moving to my mums. I was here so I could lose my weight but it wasn't working out and I had the band done. Yet my father isn't satisfied he thinks the band is a miracle.

I don't need him anymore. This band has done better than all his methods combined and I will keep going at this pace.

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Def try and go to your mum's. You dont need a person like that in your life right now. I know the feeling with the hot weather... I get mean like a rattlesnake and people don't understand just get the heck away from me and leave me alone untio I cool down. Those people just don't understand what it is like for us/people loosing weight. We don't need your mental abuse we have enough of our own.

Good luck. You have a lot of people on here that will help if we can. Even if it's just kind words

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Def try and go to your mum's. You dont need a person like that in your life right now. I know the feeling with the hot weather... I get mean like a rattlesnake and people don't understand just get the heck away from me and leave me alone untio I cool down. Those people just don't understand what it is like for us/people loosing weight. We don't need your mental abuse we have enough of our own.

Good luck. You have a lot of people on here that will help if we can. Even if it's just kind words

Thanks that means a lot :)

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Do not listen to your dad...walk away but your life is so much more worth than losing it. I don't like it when people put others down about their weight. You stay in control and find another to confide in. We are here for you.

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This does not sound healthy at all. You will find many of us here have that one toxic family member who just wasn't or isn't supportive. How old are you? You need to create some boundaries between you and your father. Why seek approval in the places you know you aren't going to get it? Life is too short! Do this for YOU! I promise you, if you do not deal with your emotional issues you will gain all of the weight back. I know this, because I was on the same emotional roller-coaster with my family for years. Please call 911, call your WLS support team, or a therapist.

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