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Thank the good lord I did not tell too many people.

My weight loss has been dreadfully slow and I feel like a failure around those I have told.

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Sherrie,

I fully understand you... me too, I've been loosing soooo slowly (less than 20 lbs in 15 months, my doctor refuses to to do big fills each time, and I only get to see him every 4 or 6 months...)that sometimes I feel I am a real fiasco... Things would've been even harder if I had told everybody around me, and even with those few I told, I wish i didn't have to (but that would have been impossible not to...) Loosing weight is a constant struggle for me, even with the band.

niki

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I only told immediate family and very close friends about my surgery. The recovery period is so small, I was able to just take a few days off without anyone suspecting a thing. I told my boss I was having a minor procedure just in case something went wrong and I wound up in the hospital longer than planned.

Once the weight loss became noticeable, I told people I was doing a modified South Beach Diet since my food tolerances are consistent with it (no bread, pastas, sweets, etc). The funny thing is that I've lost so much that a dozen people I work with started doing the South Beach Diet. LOL.

I decided not to tell because I didn't want to be "judged" either. Even though it's no one's business, people still come out of the woodwork to give their unsolicited opinion. I don't need that negativity. There are so many negative opinions of WLS because of the statistics regarding bypass and no one really understands the band yet. It's alot more than a five minute explanation of what it is and why it was best for you. You're weight loss will be at such a natural pace, you can really get away with not telling anyone ever.

Good luck.

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Lots of interesting and useful posts. I didn't do a scientific survery or anything but I get the impression that most ppl prefer to keep it to themselves and their "inner circle". I just want to clarify one thing (& though I don't presume to speak for others, it also prob holds true for the others)...just because I may choose to keep it to my very inner cirlce by no means is an indication that I am ashamed or embarassed about it. NOT AT ALL!!! Obiously I would share the info with someone if they were serious about it (ie. were also obese and asked for assistance). Nosiree bob...no shame here!!!!:guess

only 10 more sleeps to go!!!

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