My big "FAT" rant.

[Julie norton 2,850]

Good luck to you

[jamilyne 102668 1,207]

I am so sorry for all of the pain that you have gone through. I've had doctors tell me things too and make comments. During the summer I was having a terrible time with my neck and shoulders and was in so much pain. I decided to go to a

Massage therapist who told me that my problem was my weight and that I needed to lose weight. I was crying as he gave me the massage because I felt so bad that I had gotten so overweight and I was embarrassed. I cried the whole day after that. It was like he was telling me something I didn't already know - like I had no idea that I was overweight. It still makes me cry.

Well I got my lapband on 9/13 and I've lost 18 pounds. I don't want to go through the next half of my life being overweight. I knew I had to change because what I was doing wasn't working. Reduce my calories and try to eat healthy then I was starving and binged, tried nutrisystem, weight watchers, the shaker crap, pills, everything. Lapband was my only hope and I'm so happy that I've been able to get it done!

My health insurance does not cover weight loss surgery and my husband's employer actually has a rider on the policy forbidding any kind of weight loss surgery. I had to go to a plastic surgery clinic and pay cash. Most places do offer payment plans and usually they are decent payments too.

My advise to you is to try it. You can do research, look on this website, talk to your doctors and just see. I understand that it is expensive and it might be hard to swing it. My calorie intake has been so much less and my part of the grocery bill has decreased. I pack up my lunch and Breakfast for work (no eating out for lunch) and I've gone out to eat with my husband and can just get sides (like scrambled egg or soup).

I wish you the very best of luck and I am so sorry for the nastiness that you have endured. It's really sad the way people treat others.

[Chris51 16]

Thank you all!!!!! I feel much better today. I have spent the last couple nights reading threads on this site and it really helped. Had a talk with my husband ( I scared him when I went on my rant) he is standing behind me 100%. ? Is it normal for the spouses to worry you are going to get skinny and leave them. Hubby says he knows it is stupid put it is a small fear he has. We have been together 20yrs I am not going anywhere.

In my case I would have to say yes my wife was very worried about me getting skinny and leaving her I think it was one of the driving reasons she asked me to stop the process when I was originally scheduled for surgery a few years ago. It just took me until this summer to make her realize that as far as I'm concerned I had won the marriage Lottery and that I wanted too do it, so that I could be around with her in my life longer.

[BLK Velvet 4]

Bariatric surgery is tough marriages! Just make sure you are giving your husband extra tlc before and after the procedure.

I think my husband has some of the same insecurites. He married me this size. I just have to show him our love goes way beyond the way that I look.

[MistyfortheMountain 119]

We have all been right where you are so don't feel alone! Seriously though doctors amaze me with some of the things they say. I actually had this skinny prissy doctor start in on me about my weight and i was there for strep throat! I'm like is this a joke? My automatic diagnosis is your a fatty!? Yes I'm aware but being fat did not give me strep you little hag!

This made me laugh out loud! Literally! Thanks!