My big "FAT" rant.

[taaa24 1]

hi i just want to say i havent been banded yet just starting the process. my first apt. is in jan. ive read a lot of your posts and everyone of them remind me of me. ive had the same thoughts and feelings. thank you so much for being here. know that your not alone and i know you are a beautiful person!! i feel very blessed to have met you on here... thank you for you honesty. ive tryed talking to family and others about these issues but they dont even want to hear about it. they make me feel like they are mad at me. keep your head up. you can do this!! love tee

[akwright68 114]

I have felt like you for the last twenty five years. The ups and downs, trying to make other things keep me happy, so I don't think about being "the fat girl". My dad makes it worse by saying "you would be so pretty if you just lost some weight."

I have just completed my 6th supervised diet appointment, which was the insurance requirement. My papers have been submitted and I hope the approval will be quick.

This is a journey and there are many finance plans, just speak with your surgeon.

You have support, and we are here through the entire journey. Good luck.

[Renee2817 76]

Hang in there, one day you will look back on this day and feel so good; because you have met your weight loss goal. Good luck to you on your new life journey.

[Maddysgram 6,159]

I went in for a sinus infection once and didn't see my normal pcp and the new one told me I wouldn't get so many sinus infections if I lost weight. I walked out' date=' two days later my normal pcp called me and apologized for the rudeness of her colleague. I told her that wasn't good enough that the b***h needed sensitivity training.

If I call now and she is the only one available I will wait as long as it takes so I don't have to see her.

I talked with my hubby and he explained that he loves me and really doesn't think I will leave. We have three friends who were married when they had wls and all three are divorced now. I guess if I was in his shoes I might have that thought to.[/quote']

We had the discussion about WLS patients ending up divorced in my support group and the percentages we're high(can't remember exact #) .

I think if this does happen, they have other problems in marriage already, or like CG's smart hubby said, guys aren't treating the wife like they should, or wife not treating LB hub like he deserves. Gotta be sensitive to my LB buds, lol.

Everyone needs that soft shoulder to cling to!

[babykins529 189]

My psychologist said 75% divorce rate for bariatric marriages.

[Hynita 113]

Hang in there I have my fingers crossed that the credit for you is approved it will be one of the best things you ever do. If you need a buddy to chat with I'm happy to listen and talk. Keep us posted on what they say. Good luck.

[evlyn1971 26]

I have my appt. with the wlc. I have lost 11lbs since my pcp put me on 1300 calories a day.

[akwright68 114]

That is great!

[B-52 7,113]

Okay.....so.... Hopefully this will make sense as I am so mad/sad I can't think.

Or rather my weight is all I can think about.

I want to go to the doctors and not hear " you need to loose weight" or "because you are overweight" or "this happens to bigger girls".

It seems to me that every time I go to the doctors it is something new, that can be directly linked to my weight. This isn't to say that I want a new ailment I just want to go once and not hear these things . I left my obgyn crying ( I waited till I was in the parking lot) and cried all the way home.

What the hell have I done to my body, why have I let myself get this big. What is wrong with me, I can't even do overweight right. Most overweight girls I know have big boobs or pretty faces. I have neither. Oh and add to that my hair is so thin you can see my scalp I will be bald soon.

I have tried talking to my husband, bless his soul, but I cry and then I get angry because I know this is all my fault. He tries to be supportive he says "he loves me just the way I am" or " it's ok honey everyone thinks you are special". Then I hear him tell my son ( he's 24) " your mom is having some sort of mid life crisis" ........ Grrrrr he doesn't get it.

I have been eating salads and chicken and fish, watching my portions, and drinking so much Water I am surprised I don't float. I get on the scale at the doctors and have gained 2.5 lbs. which makes me look like a jackass because I just excitedly told him about being so good with my food.

I know people here will think " go to therapy girl". Been there done that my therapist thinks these emotions are normal for someone "who is overweight" and that I need to recognize the problem and work on it. My pcp and my therapist want me to get wls, my insurance plan will not cover it. I have applied for care credit and am waiting patiently..... NOT.

WOW I feel a little better.

Love me hate me, it is what it is!!!!!

Thank you

Just goes to show you....for many people, myself included....diets just do not work! I struggled with diets for 30 years....

I failed at everyone...hopeless.....

I am now thrilled beyond belief that this surgery finally took care of what dieting could not.....

ALL BAND ALL THE TIME!

[evlyn1971 26]

Hello everyone, just an update! I did not get the financing for the Lapland. It was a real bad time for me.... I pretty much gave up on everything and wished the world would just stop and let me off.

I am happy to say that I didn't give up, I started over and have lost 34lbs and am one doctors visit away from being taken off my diabetic medication.

It is hard and I slip and eat a bowl of Ice cream but then I pull up my big girl panties and keep plugging along.

I want to thank everyone here for teaching me some valuable things. I now know I failed those diets they didn't fail me, I don't look at the way I eat now as a diet but as a lifestyle change, 'I can eat whatever I want I just choose not to eat some things today'.

I also learned that I am not alone in my struggles everyone here has been where I was and survived and so can I.

Don't get me wrong it is still a struggle everyday and some days I fall and land on my ass and don't get up right away, but I do always get up eventually.

I am so proud of all of you for your progress and/or just for trying. You took me in and helped me out when I needed it the most. I didn't get my band but I did get my help from all of you.

I am on myfitnesspal as evlyn1971 come join me, you can encourage me and I can encourage you.

Thank you

Evelyn

[dlkumes 42]

Hang in there. Question. I know you said your insurance denied you - mine did too but my Dr appealed it and it got approved. Worth trying if you have not already. We have all been where you are so continue to stay on this board and the support will really help. . Donna

[evlyn1971 26]

I have tried everything you can think of, my doctor called and wrote to my insurance company saying it was medically Necessary, they still said no.

[es1120 141]

Keep trying! Have your dr continue to appeal. When it's medically necessary, it may take a few tries. I wish only the best for you.

[fredanna 17]

Someone told me that now that the AMA has officially classed obesity as a disease, it will be easier to get insurance to help pay for the surgery. I don't know if that is true, but it is worth investigating.

Good luck!

[B-52 7,113]

Someone told me that now that the AMA has officially classed obesity as a disease, it will be easier to get insurance to help pay for the surgery. I don't know if that is true, but it is worth investigating.

Good luck!

I see patients everyday and rely on insurance reimbursement.....I can say this, that getting insurance co. To pay for anything is getting worse every week.....many Dr. And hospitals are refusing to accept what once was respectable carriers because of the low payments....

And it is getting worse.....and to add insult to injury, rates are starting to go through the roof.