mike gard 0 Posted December 5, 2012 So I've started going back to the gym and normally when i was thin I never had panic attacks while at the gym it was a great atmosphere every one was nice, now there is only a handful of nice people who have known me my hole life the others are so judgmental. They all seam to give me this what the hell are u doing look. I'm sure some of that is in my head but it still really hard to deal with I've bin strong thow and have gone every day. Just wondering if u all have had the same problem Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CHEZNOEL 4,061 Posted December 5, 2012 Yep... but you know what, it is your exercise time, not theirs so they can just butt out! You are there to make a better person of yourself, not them! 1 Successful4me reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkinnyCubanChick 150 Posted December 5, 2012 So I've started going back to the gym and normally when i was thin I never had panic attacks while at the gym it was a great atmosphere every one was nice' date=' now there is only a handful of nice people who have known me my hole life the others are so judgmental. They all seam to give me this what the hell are u doing look. I'm sure some of that is in my head but it still really hard to deal with I've bin strong thow and have gone every day. Just wondering if u all have had the same problem[/quote'] The best thing that I do and has worked for me is to ignore them and smile when they look at you. Later on when they see your progress, they will come to you! 1 2muchfun reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A New New Dawn 1,695 Posted December 5, 2012 I also feel sometimes we project that onto ourselves a) by overanalyzing a situation and feeling it is more than it is and by not standing proud and confident. Hold your head high and carry on! Keep up the great work!!! 4 Kime-lou, Successful4me, dee257 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CaGottaBand 498 Posted December 5, 2012 You are doing something great for yourself. Don't let others judgement, or perceived judgement, get you down. Just focus on the healthy change you are making to your life! 2 Successful4me and dee257 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2muchfun 8,927 Posted December 5, 2012 Maybe you're not very good at reading body language? They could be looking at you and thinking hooray for that fat guy, he's actually trying to do something about his health? Think positive my friend, positive. Yeah, I know there are many out there who look down at us, but I know when I see someone who is obese and they are walking, bike riding or in the gym, I think, there's a guy who understands he has to do something to improve his lot in life. Give em a big smile and a thumbs up next time. tmf Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
4sweeties 63 Posted December 5, 2012 I try to go with my husband or a friend. Then I'm not as aware of what others are looking at/might be thinking. But after a few weeks of going with someone, I'm ok to go alone. Hang in their and it gets easier to go alone and block others out. Also, some are not really looking at you, just staring straight, as they work out. People really are thinking about themselves a lot when they are at the gym, not other peoples weight/speed. Keep going and show them how dedicated you are!!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cdnman1 7 Posted December 8, 2012 Don't let them discourage you. You are there to take care on yourself. Good for you! 1 Successful4me reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Successful4me 51 Posted December 9, 2012 Don't let them discourage you. You are there to take care on yourself. Good for you! You damn right!! Go hit-em my Band Family. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
**IP~LB** 279 Posted December 9, 2012 Don't let anyone get in your way. You know its horrible but when we (fat people) work out people are judgmental, but when we don't whats the first thing they tell us? WORKOUT. Seriously, you got lapband for yourself and now you are going to go workout for yourself! Keep up the good work and hold your head high! 1 no loca me reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites