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So, I had my surgery Monday afternoon. Got home around 8pm Monday night. I have a 1 year old son, and my husband, who took off the entire week to be home with me, only actually stayed at the house on Tuesday to help me. I have been on my own with baby boy since Wednesday morning. He was so supportive before the surgery and has now left me high and dry. Really pissed at him right now.

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Awww, he had to get out of the house. That one day really took it out of him, poor guy. It's hard work you know.

Men, they can be real asses sometimes!

Sorry any male bandsters, but 8 out of 10 times they are.

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Awww, he had to get out of the house. That one day really took it out of him, poor guy. It's hard work you know.

Men, they can be real asses sometimes!

Sorry any male bandsters, but 8 out of 10 times they are.

No excuse.... I feel like it's dangerous to leave her home alone with a 1 year old. I would say something.

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I'm so mad I could smack him. Especially since I've been lifting the baby since Wednesday. After barely being 24 hours out of surgery.

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I am sure if you think about it you knew he was this kind of guy.. they never really surprise us.

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After we got married he definitely changed. He used to do sweet stuff with my oldest son and make plans to do things with him. Now all he does is yell at him. As far as the baby, he is always gung-ho when his family is around. I'm not even allowed to touch the baby but any other time he is no where to be found!!

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Oh hun thats so sad.....

You do what you can, maybe call his family and ask them if they can help....cuz their son cant....

And i love my hubby but his idea of watching the kids and my idea are sooooo differant....

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You're on the right track... get yourself healthy again and then you'll have choices... Nobody needs to be chained to an ass if they don't have to be! You will have the last laugh...

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No excuse.... I feel like it's dangerous to leave her home alone with a 1 year old. I would say something.

You really didn't think I was being serious, did you?

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Yes, you must of been serious.

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Oh dear. I hear ya! Maybe have a talk to him and let him know again what you need from him. Sometimes men...well they're men lol but I'm sure if you communicate he will realize :)

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You really didn't think I was being serious, did you?

I was laughing my butt off Mads.....wondering if they thought that you ment it...lol

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You really didn't think I was being serious, did you?

I meant to write "excuses" Cause I figured you and I wouldn't be the only ones commenting. LoL I have said it for years, there needs to be a sarcastic font.

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No excuse.... I feel like it's dangerous to leave her home alone with a 1 year old. I would say something.

I agree, not to mention, he stayed to assist and care for her. Don't use her surgery as an excuse to be off. Please take care of yourself my dear. As hard as it can be, do not lift the baby as you can be at risk for complications.

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My husband did the same thing. We as women/mothers tend to act like superwoman and try to do it all, therefore giving them the idea we are ok without them. They're morons, they'll never get it...trust me, we may actually be better off without them while we try to heal lol

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