Friends With Benefits? How Do You Feel About It?

[blondegal_ 1,028]

shoot me now! damn if a female asked it would be totally different!

Didn't offend me at all. If it's just about sex, sure why not if neither is not in another relationship. But you have to be honest with each other.

[evlyn1971 26]

I was in a "friends with benefits" relationship for about a yr.

If you both go into it with no strings and keep it real than I think it is ok.

[BayougirlMrsS 3,935]

Steve..... forget about the friend.... just go pick up some chick at a bar and have a one nighter....

now that settles that.....

Oh, wear condoms....

[wallflower 188]

Steve..... forget about the friend.... just go pick up some chick at a bar and have a one nighter....

now that settles that.....

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Yeah. This. Why risk losing a good friend?

Although I don't agree with the people who imply a person doesn't value theirselves just because they have this type relationship. Some people don't want, or have time, for more.

[lellow 1,713]

After my husband and I spilt, I was NOT looking for another relationship. I did however meet the most amazing guy, sweet, loving, intelligent, handsome and while there was sexual chemistry, we both realised early on that there were no romantic feelings developing. So we enjoyed each other's company sexually occasionally without the 'strings' of a relationship. We would meet up for dinner and a gossip every now and again about his love life and mine, and about 50% of the time, we'd end up in bed, and usually end up staying up after watching a movie, or playing boggle on my iPad. Other times we'd split a bottle of wine, or go to a pub and just laughed with each other, and that was fun too.

And now I'm partnered with someone I do have romantic feelings for, and I'm still friends with the first guy, because we both knew early on we would be great friends, and could have a sexual relationship, without it becoming more. When I met my current partner, we didn't even talk about it, the sexual stuff just stopped dead. As consenting adults, it worked for us and it was fun to boot. And I certainly DON'T suffer from self esteem issues. I'd rather be with someone like him, who I cared about, than a one night stand any day.

[Drummergirl 10]

Definitely not! The disease factors too great.

[Kisigin 9]

I'm in the boat that if you are truly "friends" with benefits then that is a relationship, no? I mean it would be considered some sort of open relationship. I don't mean to comment on the personal relationships of anyone here but I feel a lot of times when people refer to friends with benefits they're not really sincere about the friends part. If it is someone that you would hangout with even if you weren't intimate and on top of that you ARE intimate then that's kind of how I define romance.