So I Got My Ban But...

[ChiefNoHow 1]

Why do people judge so much? Everyone swears imma lose to much weight and be skin and bones...or that I will die...im so fearful now...dont no what to think or how to feel. I was so excited now I just feel...alone

[rolakhouri 4]

You will be fine. Stay in communication with ur dr.

[MissPYT 3]

i agree, you will be fine. stop listening to the negativity and focus on the positive. join a support group, and make sure you see a therapist for the negative thoughts and feelings you are having. keep in contact with your doctor, exercise, and continue to eat healthy. you will be alright.

[ChiefNoHow 1]

I will do those things. But my sis came down to help with my after care can u believe after she seen I was on this site she was like oh I can go home you dont need me anymore I was like huh...she was like well u got the site what do u need me fa....i feel so alone and for what ever the reason my husband dont understand when im hungry he thinks I should NEVER be hungry again....ugh

[lucie159 89]

Awe honey.... if you think its gonna happen that quickly that you will get to skin and bones before you can control it.... well that's just silly, and you know it. And no one is gonna understand exactly what you are going through but US. Since we are going through it too. Your gonna do great. It will take time. But you did this for you. You need to get comfortable with you. They'll come around. And when they do, you'll be a happier and healthier you!

[Banjo257 920]

Stick to this website family and you will never be alone!!

[sarawray 44]

You hit the nail on the head when you said your husband just dont understand. I had problems with people around me being jealous. A few of my friends wanted lap band but didn't have the insurance or the money, and now they dont speak to me any more. I don't know it they gave you a green book or not, but what I did was put it and any literature I had in the bathroom and took everything else out, that way my husband had to read it, if he wanted to read. I guess not everyone likes to read but my husband gets all caught up in reading and stays in there forever lol. But don't you worry about anything, Sooner or later the negative comments will stop. I too had the problem with my kids thinking I would die. Now that they see that I am as normal as I ever was, no one says anything, and I am only 3 months out. Be sure to let your family know that this is not easy, and nothing happens overnight, and It would help you alot if they gave you support. You will be ok, This is all new, Let us know how you are doing, and remember when you start to feel alone you can always come here, no matter what time of day or night, and you will always get positive support. Take care

[Banjo257 920]

Keep reminding yourself ypu will bw healthier than you have been so some time.

Try to lower the volume of the haters!

[line-dancer 810]

If your hungry be sure to get your fills. I am new to all this but loss 32 lbs since aug and after this 3rd fill I see whast people are saying the green zone I might be there this time and it feels great I love not being straving all the time. When other make you feel bad get on here that is what we sre here for to help each other................line dancer

[hely88 883]

_{Maybe the people who care about you and dont understand just need some educating. Can you bring them to your doctors or let them read through your sugery info. Maybe then can come check out online. It sounds like they just have no idea what you are going through or what to expect. On the other hand the most important thing for you is to take care of yourself. Then maybe they will come on board. Either way you are the most important in this situation. Dont let others pull you off course!!}

[CHEZNOEL 4,061]

Take your husband to seminars with you. This is a lifetime journey and you will need all the support you can get. We will always be here for you!

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Getting banded, being committed to losing weight and being successful will give you lots of courage and you will realize that only you are responsible for your own happiness. Your husband and sister will share your journey but in the end it's all about you. You are the only one who can make this work.

As for your husband... Consider taking him with you to the dr so he can hear first hand what you are going through. Or better yet sit him down and explain the band to him. Tell him your stomach was banded..not your head. The band doesn't interfere with the bodily functions like hunger and until you are in the green zone it is shear willpower to get through it. However you are committed to doing it and would appreciate his support. My husband felt like this was all me and he really didn't know what to do or say... Until we actually discussed it and I told him what I needed from him. He was comfortable after that.

You are still in an emotional time having just been banded. Give yourself a break and start enjoying the journey.

[alicelopes 26]

Why do people judge so much? Everyone swears imma lose to much weight and be skin and bones...or that I will die...im so fearful now...dont no what to think or how to feel. I was so excited now I just feel...alone <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

My advise to you will be IGNORE IT! You doing this for yourself and nobody else. Do the people that said all this to you are going trough what you are? No. You more than anyone knows what you want. I find it as well that most of the comments like this are from people that are jealous that you going to loose weight. Believe me when I was on a diet people told me to stop because I would look ill if I was skinny, and I don't suit being skinny. Well they only are afraid we are making progress and looking better than them

[Banjo257 920]

Love the bring husband idea. I,am going to do that this week.

[lkedvs123 1]

Wow all this sound so familar