Care And Feeding Of Lap Band Opinions

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Having been on this forum for 2 years now I have read many posts and participated in numerous threads. At first I sought help as I was learning about the banding process. People were wonderful about answering what seems now as basic questions. I also enjoyed the conversations of like minded people who were going through or had been through what I was embarking on.

Now that I have lived with my band almost 2 years and been rather successful I have alot to offer others in the way of motivation, tips and support when I see questions or conversations which I feel I can help out with. In turn I too still have questions about different subjects and appreciate the answers when I post them.

That said... this is a public forum with people from all walks of life... some of whom may not be similar to mine. But when I post a question and read the opinions and answers I appreciate them at face value and respect that someone took the time to provide me with an answer...even if it isnt something I want to hear. If I didnt want opinions I wouldnt post a question.

And in turn if I dont respond to a thread its because I have nothing to offer that has not been said or in some case because I just really have nothing noteworthy to say or maybe I feel someone is just whining and I havent the time or energy to reply.

I am discussing this because recently I have received a few personal messages which have been from people saying I am too cut and dry, too black and white, or the best one was.... Just because you are thin now doesnt mean you are all that. That one actually cracked me up because yes I am very proud of my accomplishment but now its time for me to give back and help others... and if someone thinks that is self absorbing... I have no time in my life for their insecurity.

In a nutshell... I think it would be wise for people to remember that if you ask a question about your band, diet or eating habits... expect an answer. In fact expect lots of answers from people which will be to the point and based on their own personal experience. It may open your eyes to something which will help you. Or you may choose to ignore it.... But If you do not want an answer...do not ask the question.

[dee257 1,516]

Well I for one am thankful for any one that responds with a post when I post a question.....The right on answers may sting a lil at first....but in hind site....it was what I needed to hear....so congrats on your weight loss....and thank you for your words of wizdom.....dee

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

flor and deedee and others......love your posts and findings as you both are super successful and you can damn well bet i am looking to you both for advice.

those who say the pm's to you or via posts, are the ones with issues. (the ones who cheat and dont follow dr's orders etc)...and if you point it out to them,,,,,WATCH OUT

i also get pm's saying i am not very nice and my best one (how do you know).

well i do know all my 5 months so far and that is what i base my answers on and i also preach no cheating, call your dr and dont diet...

you ROCK GF...love ya

[2justme 15]

I've only been on here for a little while but I have noticed lately that there have been some people that have just been down right rude and angry with someone after they post a response to a question that was asked. It has almost made me scared to even answer any question or give any advice IF I happen to have any I agree If you don't want an answer OR if you only want the answer that YOU want to hear then don't ask it. I for one have gotten alot and learned alot from reading every one's answers to questions that have been asked on here. I have yet to come across someone on here that has reached their goal or that is close to their goal that "thinks they are all that" I think it is really sad that people would "attack" someone for their success and for trying to help others with what they have learned thru their weight loss journey. Why can't we all just get along We have all started or are starting in the same place as everyone else, which is what has brought all of us here together.

[hely88 883]

I really appreciate that you take time to post from your experience. You are one of the people I look for and you inspire me!

Thank you for sticking in there.

[TKW 501]

Wow... Really? That deserves a "WTF" ?

You're a great inspiration to many of us!

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Dee I admire your weight loss and appreciate your input. You have a sticktoitness which had gotton you where you are now! You have alot going on in your life and yet you take the time to help others and offer your opinions.

CG.... you have a passionate personality which is why you will be successful. You have done great so far! You are like me...firm on certain things regarding the band because thats what works for you. I am a firm believer that many people are looking for an easy way out. I can tell by your responses that you know what works and its black and white... there is no grey area. I applaud you.

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

I've only been on here for a little while but I have noticed lately that there have been some people that have just been down right rude and angry with someone after they post a response to a question that was asked. It has almost made me scared to even answer any question or give any advice IF I happen to have any I agree If you don't want an answer OR if you only want the answer that YOU want to hear then don't ask it. I for one have gotten alot and learned alot from reading every one's answers to questions that have been asked on here. I have yet to come across someone on here that has reached their goal or that is close to their goal that "thinks they are all that" I think it is really sad that people would "attack" someone for their success and for trying to help others with what they have learned thru their weight loss journey. Why can't we all just get along We have all started or are starting in the same place as everyone else, which is what has brought all of us here together.

I agree with you... I have always felt life it too short to be rude. Good manners is a dying art and I for one would like to send the world a lifeboat. I think there is always a way to structure your responses to be positive, uplifting and informative even by being direct.

[dee257 1,516]

One thing I'm wondering to...the ones sending private bashings....is it done privet because they really know how mean they are sounding or know how very wrong they are...so cowards pm nasty notes...just sayin

[CHEZNOEL 4,061]

AMEN to all of you. Keep posting your answers, if the people asking don't get it, they never will. Unfortunately they go over to other forums and bad mouth the band because of their failures. Note that everyone who has responded to this post has been helpful direct and positive about their band experiences, even the "bad" ones. I think there is a message there!

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Wow... Really? That deserves a "WTF" ?

You're a great inspiration to many of us!

I wanted to reply.... you darn right I am all that... I have worked long and hard for the right to say it. And if you want to make excuses and spend the next few years wondering why the band isnt working for you.... go right ahead. I am going to take my "all that" self and get on with my life. LOL

Even I get my feathers ruffled.

But of course that wouldnt have been appropriate and I should be burned on the stake for thinink such cruel things so I heeded my late mother's advice...if you dont have something nice to say...dont say it. So I kindly asked if he/she had a particular question I could help with. I never received a reply.

[Lori4080 64]

Floridays, what a shame you even have to defend yourself! I am new here, and chose this site because of the open, honest, supportive posts. For this procedure, we need to have candor. I'm sure you've helped hundreds if not thousands with your insightful posts. Those rude people just need to put their big girl panties on and face the truth. You are successful and willing to help others. That makes you a wonderful person!

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Floridays, what a shame you even have to defend yourself! I am new here, and chose this site because of the open, honest, supportive posts. For this procedure, we need to have candor. I'm sure you've helped hundreds if not thousands with your insightful posts. Those rude people just need to put their big girl panties on and face the truth. You are successful and willing to help others. That makes you a wonderful person!

well you are too kind. Thank you for those nice words. I really didnt feel as tho I neded to defend myself I just wanted to throw it out there that if people post a question...expect an answer. And that people are different so the responses may not be what you are accustomed to hearing.

For those of us who have been successful I think we have a responsibility to help others who may be struggling or have simple questions which they may feel need a more immediate answer than they can get from the dr...not that mine or anyone else's advice should take the place of a dr...but this is a great place to get those questions answered.

[TKW 501]

I wanted to reply.... you darn right I am all that... I have worked long and hard for the right to say it. And if you want to make excuses and spend the next few years wondering why the band isnt working for you.... go right ahead. I am going to take my "all that" self and get on with my life. LOL

Amen to that Sister! See, that's the difference between you and them. Your mama raised you to have manners.

I just don't get how someone can look at your success and then criticize your advice. Take it or leave it but don't PM you telling you that " now that you're skinny you think know everything." Apparently.... you know a little something about it. As the say.... "The proof is in the pudding"

[headset 11]

I specifically look for certain people's responses to questions and posts. Floridays, yours is one of them. I always value what you say and I like the way you respond to questions. I went to my doctor for my three month check up and he told me to be wary of these forums. Whereas they can be helpful, there are certain types of people who go on these forums to complain. They are the people who are not succeeding in their weight loss. We are all different and lose weight in different ways, but the end result is the same. I am proud of you for getting "thin". I hope to be there soon, too! And I refuse to allow anyone to take that away from me!!