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I feel a lot of those who were banded and lost forget where they began. Some post seem to be so disheartening when it comes to beginners. We are supposed to support one another. Not judge them and make snide remarks about things they may not be doing correctly. Remember the fat person who was constantly judged by others before you place judgement on people.

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You're totally right Jackie! It's easy, as you make progress, to forget where you started.

I will admit, sometimes I read a post of someone cheating on the pre-op diet, or stressing about pre-op testing, and want to say - GEESH PEOPLE!! But then I have to remind myself they're new to this like I once was, and it's a huge step to seek out support.

Sometimes people do need that swift virtual kick in the rear, and we're here for that type of support too :) But I think the whole world would be a better place if everyone could remember where they came from.

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Thanks for the support Jen! The old saying don't judge unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. We people we have walked that mile and will continue to do so for the rest of our lives. Skinny doesn't come easy for any of us. We will have to take it one day at a time until our time is over. So those who preach to those who slip up, remember you too wanted that chocolate bar or Big Mac. Give them it's an ok tomorrow is another day to get back on that wagon. No buddy is perfect!

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I'm sure I'll open a can of worms, but, what the hell, here goes.

In addition to forgetting where some have started, I get disgusted with some of the attitudes and comments from some people that become judgmental of others with things like spelling, grammer and insprirational posts. First of all, I'm sure many of us go to the the "New Content" button to see new posts. Does it matter at this point which forum you posted under? You have the choice of either reading a post you are interested in or not reading it!! The spelling issue? There was one post particularly concerning spelling that still bugs me and I lost respect for some of the negative participants. Forgive us if we don't spell everything correctly or use grammer to meet your expectations or language. "Walla", I said it! If I need help I'm going to ask the best way I can and if I am ridiculed over my spelling I will probably never ask anything again. I thought we were here to help one another on the lapband journey. I know, I need to get over it, but, where's the compassion of some? To be honest, I've kept away from this site because of the few bad apples.

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Everything you all just said is so true. And if someone gets nasty, tell them where to go and carry on with your life knowing that they have to live with their crappy attitude their whole life.

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I'm sure I'll open a can of worms, but, what the hell, here goes.

In addition to forgetting where some have started, I get disgusted with some of the attitudes and comments from some people that become judgmental of others with things like spelling, grammer and insprirational posts. First of all, I'm sure many of us go to the the "New Content" button to see new posts. Does it matter at this point which forum you posted under? You have the choice of either reading a post you are interested in or not reading it!! The spelling issue? There was one post particularly concerning spelling that still bugs me and I lost respect for some of the negative participants. Forgive us if we don't spell everything correctly or use grammer to meet your expectations or language. "Walla", I said it! If I need help I'm going to ask the best way I can and if I am ridiculed over my spelling I will probably never ask anything again. I thought we were here to help one another on the lapband journey. I know, I need to get over it, but, where's the compassion of some? To be honest, I've kept away from this site because of the few bad apples.

Agreed. People come here for help, not criticism. Picking on someone's spelling and grammar is not only rude and demeaning, but it is no less insulting than someone picking on someone's weight. We are all unique individuals with varied strengths and weaknesses, but we come here for a common cause which is lap band info. Let's keep the focus! ^_^

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I'm sure I'll open a can of worms' date=' but, what the hell, here goes.

In addition to forgetting where some have started, I get disgusted with some of the attitudes and comments from some people that become judgmental of others with things like spelling, grammer and insprirational posts. First of all, I'm sure many of us go to the the "New Content" button to see new posts. Does it matter at this point which forum you posted under? You have the choice of either reading a post you are interested in or not reading it!! The spelling issue? There was one post particularly concerning spelling that still bugs me and I lost respect for some of the negative participants. Forgive us if we don't spell everything correctly or use grammer to meet your expectations or language. "Walla", I said it! If I need help I'm going to ask the best way I can and if I am ridiculed over my spelling I will probably never ask anything again. I thought we were here to help one another on the lapband journey. I know, I need to get over it, but, where's the compassion of some? To be honest, I've kept away from this site because of the few bad apples.[/quote']

I like worms....my gramma sucks and i can't spel for sh**

Don't stay away, come hang with us.

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I like worms....my gramma sucks and i can't spel for sh**

Don't stay away' date=' come hang with us.[/quote']

Dats my gryl! Wuvs u!

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hmmmmmm

i have long nails and sometimes on my laptop

i miss or add a letter or two....also i dont use capital letters...oh well.......

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I will probably regret commenting on this...but as far as the posting/spelling issue?

No one cares if someone can't spell well or makes a lot of errors.

However, when I read a post that honestly looks like it was written in secret code by a drunk 3rd grader and makes zero sense because it's written *that* badly, I totally ignore it. If I need a secret decoder ring just to make sense of it, I won't deal with it.

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I will probably regret commenting on this...but as far as the posting/spelling issue?

No one cares if someone can't spell well or makes a lot of errors.

However, when I read a post that honestly looks like it was written in secret code by a drunk 3rd grader and makes zero sense because it's written *that* badly, I totally ignore it. If I need a secret decoder ring just to make sense of it, I won't deal with it.

Ok, Banded B***** all we have to do is talk in code & Missy will ignore us.

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&******########!!!!!!!))))******* code talking...........

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