roxa 15 Posted October 21, 2012 I am due to have surgery on the 26th. I've lost 25 pounds during the past floor months, and now my kids don't want me to have surgery. they say I can do this on my own and that surgery is cheating. They also say that out will be awful to have to live with these restrictions for the rest of my life. i'm now having doubts. Can anyone relate? Yes I can totally relate. I'm having doubts again, maybe because this is my 7th day on a liquid diet and i'm starving. I keep wondering why I can't do this on my own (so I can eat) and also - do I want to spend the rest of my life worrying about getting stuck and not chewing enough and food restrictions.....?? On the other hand I decided to have this surgery in the first place because I know I can lose some weight, probably not all of it, but then I will fall off the wagon and put it all back on just like I always do. I also want to quit taking a lot of the medication I am taking. So my question to me, do you want to be slim and healthy or just continue on like you have for most of your life? What made you want the surgery in the first place and has that changed? Will you keep the 25 pounds off and keep losing? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawmom611 3 Posted October 22, 2012 You and I have almost identical stats and goal.What you said makes a lot of sense.I have lost weight many times before, and here I am at an all time high, with sleep apnea, four herniated disks, and knee pain. If I could keep the weight off, I would have done it. aside from the health benefits,I would like to have one summer when I don't cry putting on a bathing suit... It just hurts to have this ordeal characterized as cheating. One son likened it to having an answer sheet for a test, and not putting in the effort to study! I know I need to make my own decision, but I didn't expect to have doubts this close to the surgery! 2 michmcpher31 and Onamissionn2013 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thinkt2013 74 Posted October 22, 2012 So happy for you!!!! Congrats! 1 Tiffany3280 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roxa 15 Posted October 22, 2012 You and I have almost identical stats and goal.What you said makes a lot of sense.I have lost weight many times before, and here I am at an all time high, with sleep apnea, four herniated disks, and knee pain. If I could keep the weight off, I would have done it. aside from the health benefits,I would like to have one summer when I don't cry putting on a bathing suit... It just hurts to have this ordeal characterized as cheating. One son likened it to having an answer sheet for a test, and not putting in the effort to study! I know I need to make my own decision, but I didn't expect to have doubts this close to the surgery! So far I can't see why anyone would think this is cheating! Maybe if your son went 14 days on a liquid diet, then the pain of surgery, then the thought of having to chew your food a thousand times before you can swallow, not to mention you will have diet restrictions where you didn't before, then maybe he wouldn't think it was cheating! I said to my husband yesterday that getting the band will make me healthy which will make me live longer. I said in this day and age - what's the point? His answer to me was "watching your grandchildren grow up, get married and have babies of their own would make it worth it". Wise man 1 lawmom611 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stampwithbarb 7 Posted October 22, 2012 I had surgery October 18, I'm in no pain tolerating liquids well!!! I'm in a little discomfort where my port is. My blood pressure is the lowest it's been in years!!! I had no nausea, I'm up walking around!!! I'm soooo glad I had this surgery. My doctor did discover I did have a hiatal hernia, which he removed!!! I can't wait to see my progress in a few months and start to exercise! !! Sent from my iPhone using LapBandTalk I hope to do as well as ya! Good Luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Msdropinoff 43 Posted October 22, 2012 I had surgery October 18' date=' I'm in no pain tolerating liquids well!!! I'm in a little discomfort where my port is. My blood pressure is the lowest it's been in years!!! I had no nausea, I'm up walking around!!! I'm soooo glad I had this surgery. My doctor did discover I did have a hiatal hernia, which he removed!!! I can't wait to see my progress in a few months and start to exercise! !! Sent from my iPhone using LapBandTalk[/quote'] Congrats welcome to the family. I'm only 11 days out but I feel the best I have in a week. Not taking any pain meds anymore. Once again congratulations and good luck. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titansjim 22 Posted October 22, 2012 I am due to have surgery on the 26th. I've lost 25 pounds during the past floor months' date=' and now my kids don't want me to have surgery. they say I can do this on my own and that surgery is cheating. They also say that out will be awful to have to live with these restrictions for the rest of my life. i'm now having doubts. Can anyone relate?[/quote'] Definetly. I backed out of this surgery about 16 months ago. Now I'm scheduled for next Monday the 29th. I've always been able to lose weight on my own. Even lost 85lbs once but I've never been able to maintain. I always ended up gaining back all the weight plus some! Only you can decide what's best for you. I'm sure the kids are just worried. My boys kinda said the same thing to me. I explained to them that this has been a life long battle for me, I've tried countless diets that never work and I need help and I think they understand & feel better about it. Good luck 1 lawmom611 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roxa 15 Posted October 22, 2012 Definetly. I backed out of this surgery about 16 months ago. Now I'm scheduled for next Monday the 29th. I've always been able to lose weight on my own. Even lost 85lbs once but I've never been able to maintain. I always ended up gaining back all the weight plus some! Only you can decide what's best for you. I'm sure the kids are just worried. My boys kinda said the same thing to me. I explained to them that this has been a life long battle for me, I've tried countless diets that never work and I need help and I think they understand & feel better about it. Good luck What happened after you backed out? Did you lose weight and then put it back on I assume? I have been having those strong doubts again. I am also scheduled for the 29th and have been on my liquid diet since last Monday. I am down 10 pounds. I started thinking last night that I didn't want to do this. I am glad I saw your post on here. I just don't know if I want to spend my life with the diet restrictions. I am so confused! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mommy2OwenJulia 12 Posted October 22, 2012 I am so happy for you. Send me your email in a message and I will email you a packet that will be helpful with meals. I hope my surgery get approved this week. I'm scheduled for Thursday at 2:00 pm Can you email me the packet too, pretty please! Stefaniedelaney@aol.com Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stampwithbarb 7 Posted October 22, 2012 me too please... bfurlong@charter.net Thanks Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiffany3280 45 Posted October 23, 2012 Please send me the packet Marshawn12@hotmail.com Sent from my iPhone using LapBandTalk Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Msdropinoff 43 Posted October 23, 2012 Can you email me the packet too' date=' pretty please! Stefaniedelaney@aol.com[/quote'] Don't leave me out...I could use help with meals too. If not to much trouble. Oohgirlz@yahoo.com Thanx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titansjim 22 Posted October 23, 2012 What happened after you backed out? Did you lose weight and then put it back on I assume? I have been having those strong doubts again. I am also scheduled for the 29th and have been on my liquid diet since last Monday. I am down 10 pounds. I started thinking last night that I didn't want to do this. I am glad I saw your post on here. I just don't know if I want to spend my life with the diet restrictions. I am so confused! Ya. Maintaining the weight loss is the hardest for me. I kinda feel like the restrictions to our diet will be minimal once we achieve "goal" weight. But it's gonna be a long journey for me to get there cuz I need to lose about 130lbs! Lol. I wish you the best in what ever decision you make. Keep us posted. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bos123 221 Posted October 23, 2012 What happened after you backed out? Did you lose weight and then put it back on I assume? I have been having those strong doubts again. I am also scheduled for the 29th and have been on my liquid diet since last Monday. I am down 10 pounds. I started thinking last night that I didn't want to do this. I am glad I saw your post on here. I just don't know if I want to spend my life with the diet restrictions. I am so confused! Have you thought of plication at all? I've been back and forth too, my date is dec3. I started a thread leaning towed Plication because it has way less restriction than lb and I am confused as well. No one replied though:( Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roxa 15 Posted October 23, 2012 Have you thought of plication at all? I've been back and forth too, my date is dec3. I started a thread leaning towed Plication because it has way less restriction than lb and I am confused as well. No one replied though:( I am not sure what plication is. I will google it and get back to you! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites