Why Is It Never Enough??????

[Nayelli 36]

Hello everyone, Well I strated my pre-op on Aug. 8 got banded on Aug.21. I weighted myself this morning and all in all I have lost a total of 54lbs. =) I saw my doctor 12 days ago when I had lost only 46lbs and he said I'm doing wayyy bettter than most lap-band patients so did my dietician said that. I started a 30 day challenge on Oct.2 to lose 20lbs this month and I only have 7lbs to go which oviously i'm on track. So why is it never enough for me? like i'm happy for a few hours when I lose a pound and when it flactuates to a few more ounces the next day I freak out!! iknow I should not weight myself everyday but I feel if I don't I will gain the weight back. I know i;m doing awsome I know that!! but why do I keep pushin gmy self harder and harder each day, why i'm i just not content with my awsome progress? I know i been in depression for a while but honestly I thought I was getting better when I started losing the weight but for the last three days have been awful. I don't know whats going on with me =( I try to be psitive most of the time but tday I just can't seem to be able to do it. why is it never enough?

[Kime-lou 648]

I think we all have moments of that and I was very much like you my first month or so. You are doing very well and should be proud of your accomplishment thus far.

As far as weighing everyday, if you want to do it! I do, but I have also learned that my weight fluctuates, so I look at a weekly average not one day on it's own. Weigh ups and downs due to numerous reasons, so it's better to look at the average rather than a stand alone day. Also remember that if you stress to much about this you will cause yourself not to lose. Stress causes cortisol to be released and that will cause you to hold on to the pounds.

Try to take a deep breath. Try weighing once a day- in the morning - with as little as possible on before you eat or drink - record it. Then take a weekly average- you may be pleasently suprised. Most of us start off losing quick and then slow to a more normal pace, so do freak if that happens. As long as those scales show a monthly downward trend then you are doing great!

[Nayelli 36]

Thanks I do weight every morning before I eat or drink and I record it my total loss weekly and at the end it does seem to help to see the average lost weekly. Thnaks for your answer though I guess there are some better days tahn others and todai is not one of them right. Well i'm still breathing so thats halfway the battle lol!!

[jen_1381 446]

I don't know the answer - - I really, really wish I did. I'm going through the same thing. I was banded in May, and the past 8 weeks I've been on a plateau. Between May and August, I lost 54 lbs then it stopped. Despite the frustration from that, I'm still just plugging along.

For me personally, I have a hard time accepting any praise, even from myself, until I'm "done". Yes, I've lost over 50 lbs, but I still have another 30 to lose. I don't feel as if I've earned the credit until I meet my goal.

If I may "warn" you...being so emotionally invested in your daily weight will make you miserable in the long run. I know, I'm doing it! I still weigh myself daily even though the numbers don't change. My husband has gone as far as hiding the scale during the week. I would rather know daily where things are at versus waiting a week, thinking I'm doing great, then being let down even more by not losing.

All I can say is that this process is a journey. I'm learning so much about myself along the way. I've decided to jump in head first to my issues that are causing my negative self image and stress. Embrace the journey, and remind yourself to stop and take a deep breath every now and then.

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

My name is Susan and I am a scale addict. And there is nothing wrong with it. Ignoring the scale for 52 years got me the grand prize of having 217 lbs to lose! I can promise you I know I will never ignore the scale again.

In order for me to suceed on htis journey I had to be focused and strict with myself. It was a long haul but I am almost there and the past 23 months have just flown by!

[Randi Cartmill 23]

I'm right there with you.. I weigh every morning. I was banded Aug 28 and I'm down 58 &I feel like it's never enough.. I think my thing is I want to be in the 100s so bad and I won't be happy until I'm there. My fiance keeps telling me your only 7 weeks out and have lost almost 60lbs be happy your doing amazing...

Just remind yourself how good your doing maybe put sticky notes on your mirror to remind yourself.. Keep up the good work!!

[Nayelli 36]

Thanks girls!! I really appreciate your input it makes me feel like i'm not the only crazy one lol!!! I guess it is what it is. Th ething is that I have tried everything in the past and this is really my last shot at gettin git right and I have heard the first six months are crucial so I want to take full advanage. I weigh myself everyday because I have learned something about myself lately I lose weight fast and "easy" but I also gain it back doubley as easy. I'm giving it my all and as on eof you girls stated above I think I wont be happy until I reah goal or close to it I guess. As far as praise goes I find it hard to accept as well because i'm still pretty big I don't think you can really tell so soemtimes I think people do it just to be nice. Anyway thanks alot, an dgood luck on ya'lls jouneys as well =)