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My surgery was August 13th. I have gone from a size 14 to a 10 since then. And have lost 22 lbs. yesterday I had on my jeans for the first time since surgery. They are baggy in the butt and I needed a belt to wear them. I made the comment that I would soon need to get rid of them. My mother turns to me and asks what size are they. When I tell her a size 10, she says that's bullshit because your ass is bigger than mine. My dear sweet husband and grown daughter both spoke up to tell me how good I look and what an amazing job I have done so far. Why can't she just say the same instead of always making fat comments??

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Because people are JEALOUS !!! congrats on your success and keep it up screw what the haters have to say Hun

Starting weight: 264.5 Current weight 252.6 Goal weight 160

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Thanks Kristinsmommy! She has always been that way with the fat comments. The difference now since surgery is that I don't turn to comfort foods to console me when I get my feelings hurt. I just take a walk.

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(((jealousy makes people so ugly)))

and you know what, i wish people who didnt have anything nice to say, would just say nothing at all

i am so proud of you :)

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It really is sad when a child has to teach a parent the golden rule. How messed up is that. I'd say your mom must have some issues of her own. Kudos for not letting her problem become yours.

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My surgery was August 13th. I have gone from a size 14 to a 10 since then. And have lost 22 lbs. yesterday I had on my jeans for the first time since surgery. They are baggy in the butt and I needed a belt to wear them. I made the comment that I would soon need to get rid of them. My mother turns to me and asks what size are they. When I tell her a size 10, she says that's bullshit because your ass is bigger than mine. My dear sweet husband and grown daughter both spoke up to tell me how good I look and what an amazing job I have done so far. Why can't she just say the same instead of always making fat comments??

Just let it motivate you to do more. Ignore her, I didn't share my surgery with anyone in my family. I got my soon to be ex-husband to accompany me on surgery day because no one in the family talks to him so they wouldn't find out. My mother is EXTREMELY jealous of anything good that happens to me. She didn't raise me my grandparents did (Thank God!) No matter my hardships, I press on and it makes some people stupid. Keep up the good work and don't look back!!

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Congrats to you and keep up the good work :)

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We cannot pick our relatives. It's too bad your mother feels,it necessary to belittle you. But aren't you lucky to have a loving hubby and daughter to fill the void. Just ignore mom and be the better person. What goes around comes around...

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There is a book out there called Toxic Parents it helps . My mother was difficult too until the day I said I don't want to play this game anymore. To bad it took me 50 years. I took the garbage until she started in on my family then I drew the line. We teach people how to treat us. Good Luck and God Bless..

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My surgery was August 13th. I have gone from a size 14 to a 10 since then. And have lost 22 lbs. yesterday I had on my jeans for the first time since surgery. They are baggy in the butt and I needed a belt to wear them. I made the comment that I would soon need to get rid of them. My mother turns to me and asks what size are they. When I tell her a size 10, she says that's bullshit because your ass is bigger than mine. My dear sweet husband and grown daughter both spoke up to tell me how good I look and what an amazing job I have done so far. Why can't she just say the same instead of always making fat comments??

I'm sorry that ypur said that to you. Some people just aren't that good at being supportive. Congratulations on your weight loss. You're doing great!

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If she never does just remember your fabulous and LOOK GOOD! Block out all the negative and keep going because that is awesome!!

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I go through the same thing. Let your haters be your motivators. I've lost 70lbs and she still don't comment on it. She has gained 30lbs and I wouldn't dare make a comment to her because I know how it feels and two wrongs don't make a right. She is definitely TOXIC ..stay on your journey you will be fine

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Great job! Be proud of yourself and do not let anyone burst your bubbles. I know what she says hurts but it honestly is her that is not happy in life. I am so happy for you and I can not wait until I can get rid of my clothes!

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I am really sadned by reading this post because as a Mother and Grandmother I if anything praise and always compliment those I love. Especially my daughter and granddaughter. To wait for your own Mother for a compliment is a shameful part on her end as a Mother.

It goes to show you that even Mothers have a lot to learn and don't always say the nicest things, even if kidding (its still hurtful). If it bothers you so, I would speak with her about her behavior towards you. You may be surprised that she doesn't even think she is hurting you. If she has been this way with you all her life, chances are she probably hadn't much maternal love from her very own Mother and its the only way she knows.

I am nothing but a mere stranger to you, but think you are doing a magnificient job. I am also happy to have read you have a wonderful support system in your daughter and husband!

((hugs))

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