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Commitment.

I am told everyday that I am scared of commitment which is why I have not gone further with WLS I keep going back and forth one day I want it really bad. the next day I don't want it because I don't want to give up the things that gives me comfort and happiness.... People ask me all the time why I am scared of commitment but then I look at them like what makes you think I am? (I mean hello I am married is that not a commitment?!)

So since I am just blabbering I am afraid, I am not afraid of working hard or eating the things I need to or even working out. What I am afraid of is this: Still not being happy after the weight loss... Then What?

Just a hole bunch of thinking sole searching and yes go ahead you all can call me Negative Nancy.

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WLS can't make you happy. Being happy is a state of mind not a size. Figure out what is making you unhappy and address that issue. If you are ready to be healthier the go for WLS

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This journey has been way more emotional for me than I ever expected and I figured myself to be a emotionally healthy. It's really hard. Losing something (food) that brings you happiness will make it harder. If you find what makes you happy and can cling to that before you have surgery it will help a lot. Having the surgery and what follows will NOT make you happy - but the life changes you make in order to make it a success definitely could. I have experienced my first bout of depression in the last month - first in my life I think. It's been a struggle but I'm finally coming out of it and so please don't think that WLS will fix anything for you that you haven't already been working on fixing before you started. Best of luck in your decision.

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