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I was banded last Dec 2011. I let my daughter know I was having surgury. I told her I was getting it done so mommy can be the mommy I want to be by playing with her, going on bike rides, and yes even getting in a swim suit and going swimming with her. I told her I didn't want to be the mommy sitting and watching I wanted to right there with her doing it. I told her that if I lost the weight I wouldn't be so tired and could do those things. She was pretty scared for me but my husband and I assured her I would be fine. She came up to the hospital later the day of surgery and saw me. Which wasn't the best because they gave me too much meds to put me to sleep for surgery and I was in and out and very sick. It ended up my doc made me stay the night to monitor me. But there is one thing I do remember my daughter came over to me and said "mommy I don't want to hurt your feeling but your still fat!" I laughed because I didn't realize she thought they were going to cut me to pieces to make me skinny that was why she was so scared. She is OK now but she does say I was more comfy when I was larger. Haha. The only time she was gotten a little uptight is when she has seen me stuck a couple of times. She is my biggest cheerleader and always says slow down and chew. I love her and glad she helps me out. Today is her bday and she is the big eight years old.

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I was banded last Dec 2011. I let my daughter know I was having surgury. I told her I was getting it done so mommy can be the mommy I want to be by playing with her, going on bike rides, and yes even getting in a swim suit and going swimming with her. I told her I didn't want to be the mommy sitting and watching I wanted to right there with her doing it. I told her that if I lost the weight I wouldn't be so tired and could do those things. She was pretty scared for me but my husband and I assured her I would be fine. She came up to the hospital later the day of surgery and saw me. Which wasn't the best because they gave me too much meds to put me to sleep for surgery and I was in and out and very sick. It ended up my doc made me stay the night to monitor me. But there is one thing I do remember my daughter came over to me and said "mommy I don't want to hurt your feeling but your still fat!" I laughed because I didn't realize she thought they were going to cut me to pieces to make me skinny that was why she was so scared. She is OK now but she does say I was more comfy when I was larger. Haha. The only time she was gotten a little uptight is when she has seen me stuck a couple of times. She is my biggest cheerleader and always says slow down and chew. I love her and glad she helps me out. Today is her bday and she is the big eight years old.

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Sorry tired to figure how to take the other posts off and couldnt figure it out!

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For me i didn't tell very many people either but i am completely honest with my children. I have three kids 8,7, and 5. my husband and i sat down and told our kids i was having surgery to help me lose weight. We told them in a simple way what the lapband is and how it works...we answered questions that the asked...i told them that mommy was going to be eatting different from now on. True results gave me a book called "The Lapband Solution" it has pics of the lapband itself and cartoon pictures that were very helpful. I too have not told anyone but my husband and a few family members..i explained to my kids that mommy isn't ready to tell everyone just yet and that they can ask me or my husband questions about the lapband but not to talk to anyone else about it. My kids understood and haven't talked about it with anyone else..they still ask questions and i just answer so that they can understand. I hope this helps!!!! good luck!

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I will share my story about my weight loss and my children...I have 8 children ages 35 to 7 and my oldest children know my struggle of my weight and were very happy to know I was finally able to get the surgery,yet at the same time they thought "really mom at your age"...lol... .My younger ones were more worried about what mom was doing...but as I loose and am happier and doing more they are so happy to see the new me.....and last night while eatting Water melon my youngest said to me....after he swallowd a to big a bite...mom I think Im having a stuck issue....OOO we all had to laugh.....as you can see I have been very open with them about this jurney....

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