Guilty Feelings :(

[tslomko@yahoo.com 7]

Hi all!

I am on my 2nd month and down 24 lbs. I am starting the " mushy food"'phase but I feel guilty eating. Does anyone else feel guilty eating; almost like I'm going to gain it all back even though I am following the rules to a T. Thanks for your help!

[iammisslinda 10]

You may gain a few pounds back at first but don't be discouraged

[tslomko@yahoo.com 7]

I think that's what I am afraid of... Even one pound is to much! I know that's probably going to be the case so ,I understand . Thanks!

[2muchfun 8,927]

Your lapband journey will be filled with peaks and valleys. It's not a steady consistent stairway to skinny heaven. There will be plateaus, setbacks and many victories. Here's a quote I read a few months ago.

"In my case, the most fearful thing I had to do in order to succeed with my band wasn't switching to skim milk, surviving a liquid diet, or giving up bread. The most fearful thing was giving up my emotional attachment to food. In the nearly 5 years since I was banded, I've made a lot of progress with that, but the attachment is still there. It forms one of the innermost layers of my turtle shell. Working on that layer will probably be a lifetime job for me. At times I'm not even sure I truly want to get rid of it altogether. At times I'm afraid that if I shed my shell completely, I won't be able to survive. On the other hand, I seem to be doing fine without that thick old b***h layer. So I'm going to pay attention to my dreams rather than my fears and pray for a miracle. And why not? It can't hurt to try!"

Pay attention to your dreams, ignore your fears. You're wasting precious energy fretting over milk that has never spilled.

tmf

[tslomko@yahoo.com 7]

2muchfun,

Amazing what a few words can do. You really helped me out. I will keep your post handy and read it often! Thanks so much.

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

Hi all!

I am on my 2nd month and down 24 lbs. I am starting the " mushy food"'phase but I feel guilty eating. Does anyone else feel guilty eating; almost like I'm going to gain it all back even though I am following the rules to a T. Thanks for your help!

I felt like that as well I had to make myself eat what I was supposed to eat many times it was tough for me to get to the whole 1000 cal because I was just afraid I was going to eat too much....

I had a conversation about it with my doctor and he said those feelings are very normal.... I was able to do so however in the back of my mind it's still a looming thought. but I don't look at it at as a bad thing because I think having it back there in my brain will help me never to get back to where I was ever again.... the band just won't let me..

Congratulations on your success I'm sure it's just one of many to come

[tslomko@yahoo.com 7]

Floridays I'm happy to hear this is an ok feeling and that I am not alone in it! Thanks for you help.

[Rapunzel 2]

I have recurring (constant??) thoughts about when the weight will come back. I don't feel bad about what I do eat, I just am expecting (but hoping not) that the weight will come back - like every other "diet" I've tried. Working / discussion with my therapist to get the negative talk out of my head and how to beat this voice!

[Summerrain 520]

Hi all!

I am on my 2nd month and down 24 lbs. I am starting the " mushy food"'phase but I feel guilty eating. Does anyone else feel guilty eating; almost like I'm going to gain it all back even though I am following the rules to a T. Thanks for your help!

I have had those thoughts too, even now two months post op I'm scared of food and regaining. That fear of regaining makes me make the right choices everyday. I don't ever want to go back to where I started. So yes your guilt/fear, whatever you want to call it is normal. As others have said even though you follow your instructions to a t there will be fluctuations and that's ok as eventually the numbers on the scales will go down.

Best of luck to you on this journey!