georgiagunnels 11 Posted August 26, 2012 ok so i realize that we just paid a lot if money for this surgery.....but every single morning my husband asks me if I've lost weight. if i say no he looks at me like a complete failure! so now i don't want to even eat in front of him! what is his deal! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yoli76 5 Posted August 26, 2012 aww he should nott b like that with u ! my hubby supports me in every way ! i had surgery 1 yr n half ago ! 255 = 160 ! HE SHOULD B THERE TO SUPPORT U ! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703 Posted August 26, 2012 Honestly? He sounds like an uncompassionate and unsupportive jerk. Tell him to stop asking, you'll let him know when the situation changes. 1 Maddysgram reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zinhaa 363 Posted August 26, 2012 People don't understand. Tell him your not getting on the scale until your dr appointment. It takes a while for things to happen and change. Hard to do but remember why you did this. It was for yourself and better health and lifestyle i am guessing. Just keep following the rules. It wasn't over night that we put on the weight so it won't be overnight to take it off. Sounds like you need to find a support group. We are all here for you too. Wendy 1 LiveStrong41 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sojourner 2,446 Posted August 26, 2012 I believe there's more than one way to interpret this...your interpretation of your husband's "look" may not be accurate. My husband is very supportive of my band surgery and efforts to loose weight, and sometimes he seems to take on the role of my "food police". I accept this as one of his ways of showing concern and support. Men and women actually use different parts of their brains as they approach problem solving and express their emotions. Check with him to be certain that your "interpretation of his look" is accurate. Best wishes... 3 Maddysgram, ☠carolinagirl☠ and elcee reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721 Posted August 26, 2012 i agree with my girls missy and sojo both am sorry he is making you feel this way just answer him with a resounding YES i am. (your getting healthier every day and feeling better) 1 Maddysgram reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xsentrick 194 Posted August 26, 2012 To me it sounds like he doesn't understand how the band and your body work together. It seems that his expectations as to how much weight and how quickly you lose it are a little on the high side. Just try talking to him and educating him on how the LB works as a tool to assist you and what to expect as far as weight-loss goes. Knowledge is power! 4 chicasmom, Andwhatrea, lozjacko and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jack 855 Posted August 27, 2012 "Check with him to be certain that your "interpretation of his look" is accurate. " a very reasonable option Assigning 'what other people think' then acting "as if' that were so, is a habit that we slip into using that too often justifies our own non rational behavior. Immanuel Kant had a very lengthy discourse based on behavior stemming from "the Hypothetical Imperative"....acting AS IF something were true. Shorter answer.....maybe your hubby is just trying to have a little fun, but in a way that isn't very productive. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TexasJeff 179 Posted August 29, 2012 I'd jus say "yep, 40 pounds in just one day". Hope it happens again tomorrow!!! 1 yanettchao reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
georgiagunnels 11 Posted August 30, 2012 i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone 5 maxeen29b, danielle b, xsentrick and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xsentrick 194 Posted August 30, 2012 i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone Now THAT is funny!! :-) 1 pattiwagon30 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maxeen29b 0 Posted October 10, 2012 i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone Haha! I agree with the others, I think (1) maybe he's expecting too much too soon, or (2) you're just misinterpreting him (e.g. it's just his way of supporting you jokingly). If it's the former, the above quote is warranted. If it's the latter, it's still warranted because at least you're both messing with each other. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites