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I am in the pre-op stage. I just revelry finished all the testing and I'm scheduled for survey September 6th. I have shared my getting banded with everyone. Today a coworker came up to me and said "You look great your losing weight" and I thanked her. I haven't seen her in a while so I told her that I was getting banded. She gave me the most horrid look and pretty much told me I am going to die. Why can't people just be happy for us ? This is my life I don't need someone telling me all the horror stories. I pretty much told her to F**k off As nicely as I could.

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surgery* ugh freaking auto correct . excuse any other misspellings

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This is why i only told my family!

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I only told a few choice people and I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks. I did this for me.

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Everyone is entitled to their opinions - unfortuantely, almost everyone likes to share theirs :) Most of the time, their "horror stories" come from hear-say or assumptions, not real life personal experience. You said it right though - this is your life. Nobody else has to live in your skin. Do what you feel is right and let everyone else worry about themselves.

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once I get an official surgery date I plan on telling everyone I know via Facebook :D gotta love the social network. I'm hoping my friends will be positive.

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Only my mom, dad, sister and husband/kids know. No one else!!!

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The word about mine is slowly getting out. I have several friends who know, but I don't tell them outright. They have asked what is going on and I direct them to my blog where I wrote about my debate on telling friends or not and that I didn't want to have to throat punch anyone who was negative. So...they can see what I am doing, think their own thoughts and make an educated decision on whether to tell me if they think it is a bad idea. Lucky for them, they've all been supportive.

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i told my friends at work (as i had to take time off and answer a gazillion questions) and with me being manager for nationwide software company, they had to know--- bout it on my side. (not to mention my friends on the forum here).

hub told his friends and when i asked why?? he said because i am proud of you.

nuff said

(tell whom you want or not, but remember this is about YOU).

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Send your coworker and e-mail with a link that explains the procedure. So many people are not educated about WLS. Maybe instead of us all getting mad educate someone. You don't need their approval but how nice to educate them.

Cheri

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I only told a few choice people and I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks. I did this for me.

I only shared with a select few also. I really don't care about others opinion because I am doing what's best for ME

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I am new here.. My sutgery is scheduled for 7/30.. This is day 1 of my two week prep wih the shakes and bars.. I'd love to know what to expect in this next two wks..

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Yay for ignorant folks. Woo hoo for you in being nice. Not everyone is going to understand why you are going through this. The ones that matter care and will be there to support you and get you through it. My friends and some of my family know that I've done this and most of my friends are encouraging and supportive. If you have to answer for your actions, then you don't need them.

You'll get through this with the help of the site, friends, and your own sheer will. You will make it through this.

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I only told a few family members. Just recently I put it on my Facebook page because it seems everyone has such a horrible opinion on be banded. Everyone thinks it's the easy way out. For what reason I don't know, I think this is a pretty hard choice because you have to work hard. I got a few responses back but other then that I don't care what anyone thinks or says.

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