Observation....

[B-52 7,113]

Isn't it amazing, that people who tell you that you have lost enough or you are loosing too much weight, are over weight themselves??

A normal or skinny person will compliment you on how you look every time.

just realized this little tidbit....

[Toddy 758]

I think your observation is spot on 98% of the time.

However, a couple of years ago I had a good friend that lost weight, and lost a little too much, and she literally looked like she had been sick. She quit losing and put about five pounds back on and looked much better.

Being a woman of a "certain age" I fully expect to look a little older when the fat is not filling out the wrinkles, but I just don't want to look sickly!

[honk 780]

Don't know if I necessarily agree. My middle sister who is average to slightly above average weight; had lost a lot of weight. In my opinion too much weight but being overweight myself would never in a million years have told her that. Our older sister who's always been normal weight how ever felt no compunctions about telling her that she has lost too much weight. My thought was it was not a sustainable weight for her. And I was right.

[Puppypaws57 137]

I think that a lot of times that people tell us we have lost too much weight because they are so used to seeing us fat, when we reach a good weight they think we look to thin.

Say my normal weight if I had never gotten fat would have been 110 (This is just an example to show a point). If everyone was used to seeing me at 110, they would think I was just petite.

But if I had been 300 lbs and lost my weight and became 110 people would think I lost too much weight. Even though that might have always been the right weight for me.

I hope you are able to follow my example.

This is what I think happens.

[SageTracey 608]

I agree it is because people are used to seeing us fat. But I did get sick of one of my husband's cousin's telling me that I had lost too much weight and needed to stop. I tried explaining that my BMI meant I was still obese, not overweight, but obese. She persisted until I told her that I would stop losing weight when I was as slim as her. She is tall and a weight that looks healthy (I don't know how much she weighs so can't be sure). But she suddenly stopped harassing me!