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Turning 40 And Still Havent Reached My Goal



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Hey there

I havent been back to the forum for a while but I just feel so down at the moment and needed to vent.

I was banded in November 09, had 3 follow up sugeries for new ports over the first year and lost 35kg but am at a stand still almost 3 years on.

I was hoping to be under 100kg by my 40th birthday which wasnt an unreasonable goal at all and I am way off.

I feel like I have failed the lap band and just feeling really down about things and needed to vent.

I know I need to go back to the surgeons office but honestly I am just fed up with the entire thing,,,,,,,i feel like I lived there for 2 years the amount of fills and adjustments I had to get not to mention the muck up with the ports and the in and out of hospital.

In the morning and at lunch time I struggle to eat but by night time I can eat what I want.

Depending on my cycle depends on if my band feels too tight or not tight enough and it varies from day to day......some days I can eat hardly anything and others I could eat a house!!!!!

Is it just me or does the band not work for everyone?????

How do I get back on track????

I still have at least 50kg to lose :(

HELP!!!!

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Well, the band does not work for everyone but it sounds like you've given up already? If you can get your port problems under control I see no reason why you can't get back in the game? It sounds like it's worked for you before, why not again? You just have to want it badly enough.

tmf

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I agree no reason at all why u can get back on track. U need to start logging your food, and exercising. You lost a lot of weight beforehand and to stop now would be such a waste, once we start getting nearer goal we have to normally work even harder to shift those stubborn kgs .. i know i had to be even more rigid with food and exercise. I think if u struggle with enough restriction first need is to get a fill, then maybe do a food journal for a week or two and log what u are eating, sometimes this is a real eye opener. Then get an exercise regime worked out that will push you but will also be enjoyable so that u stick at it. Even if its not much to begin with regularity beats intensity when u start off again, i do exercise bike while watching tv and and my dumbells and resistance bands after, i havent let exercise interupt my life, just made it part of it.

Good luck and dont give up !

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