10 Days In And Feeling Low! Scared If Failing!

[kells31 0]

Hi guys

I'm 31 years old female living in London!

I has my banding on the 18th June I'm on the liquid phase and will be starting mushy food on Monday, I've lost 18 Pound so far but 11 was list in the week leading to surgery I'm starting to worry that I have made the right decision.

I'm concerned that my will power will let me down! I'm so determined to loose weight and finally be fit and slim but I keep having that nagging feeling that I may fail. I was so confident I'd do well prior to the operation but now I find myself having more Soup or shakes that I think I possibly should

Did anyone else feel like this or is it just me?

Thanks

Kel

[kah1213 311]

It's totally normal to have those feelings. Use this first month as a time for healing. Don't worry about weight loss. It will come off soon enough. I was banded 1 month ago.

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

hi Kel,

What you're going through is totally normal. I remember in the days after my surgery sitting and staring at my broth that was dinner thinking "oh hell, what have I done?" I was miserable on the liquid diet, I was afraid of gaining on the mushie and soft diet, and then I was worried I'd be hungry forever and my willpower wouldn't hold up.

It's scary in the beginning!

But rest assured, it gets so much easier. It takes some time to get a couple fills and restriction, but eventually it does come and then you won't be so reliant on willpower alone. In the meantime, right now is your time to heal, so try to concentrate on that. The rest will come once you're past the post op diet and back on regular food.

Hang in there, it gets a lot easier and less scary

[scorrea 95]

I am too, new at this and have had the same feelings. I think they are completely normal. I still lay in bed at night and wonder! Keep your head up and know this is the best thing we could have done for ourselves and how much healthier we will be in the end!!

Good luck!

[lassie 247]

Hi Kel

I was very afraid of failing but so far doing ok, Banded on 24th May have not had a fill yet, I have to wait the six weeks. I also have eaten more that I should sometimes but that does not signify that I am failing, just a little trip up.

Hang in there until you start getting your fills we will go thru this together. God bless

Lassie

[Sojourner 2,446]

Hi Kells,

Too many of the participants on this forum to count have expressed their self doubts about the band surgery...after the fact. Myself included; the morning after my surgery I remember asking myself "What the h%#& have you done to yourself?"

If anything this weight loss journey is self empowering. You are the one who decides how successful you will be...and I speak from experience when I write that we don't know the depths of what strengths we possess until we are tested to tap into them. This journey will be a catalyst to discover and learn more about yourself. For me, I have learned the value of patience...and to take a day at a time. Some days will be more challenging than others...and that's ok...tomorrow will come.

To be successful does require change...and specifically that you must change your relationship with food and how you think about it. Incorporating exercise into your life can be a real challenge. I believe we can all be successful if we are motivated to be. If you believed in your abilities to be successful prior to your surgery...those strengths are still there. And as others have written, the journey does become easier with time and getting to the green zone.

Best wishes as your journey continues...

[carymom 4]

Was totally afraid of failing. Some times are slow losses, others are faster. You take the bad with the good, and keep on going. I have been banded for a year. I now enjoy (look forward to) exercise and am NOW petrified of not exercising - afraid that I will gain the weight back. So, in other words, I am still afraid, and within 5 lbs of my goal.

You will be amazed - many of the foods that you have eaten in the past will be foods that you don't really want any more, and will have trouble understanding why you ever really wanted them to begin with. Now, again, one of my fears is that if I eat one of those things (like more than one slice of pizza), I will not be able to stop. The fact is, the band will not allow you to eat too much - if you listen to it.

Please stay safe and stay the course. Looking forward to hearing wonderful things about your "losses."

[highland 168]

I reached my goal weight today, Yipee! With that said, I worried every single day that I wouldn't be successful! Now since two months ago I am scared to death of gaining my weight back!

[Cindysmom (Ilene) 130]

I guess we are all the same. Try to have more possitive feelings. The lapband is great. Highland I want to congratulate you. Have a good weekend and look up not down.

[lassie 247]

I reached my goal weight today, Yipee! With that said, I worried every single day that I wouldn't be successful! Now since two months ago I am scared to death of gaining my weight back!

Woot Woot

lassie

[bigenuff 302]

It gets better ! Most of us here have tried and failed at every other diet out there ,so of course it enters our mind that this will be like the other times.its normal but try to focus on healing right now ! It will come off.was banded 4/6/12. I am 40 lbs down now.i struggle to throw out negative thoughts daily that tell me " you've lost this much before you will gain it back":-( but the scale keeps going down !! You will do great !! Good luck !

[geology rocks 9]

I was banded on May 25th and have only lost 7 pounds post- op so far. I am also starting to worry that I am doing something wrong. I have had one fill so far. It helped a lot with restriction, but I am still hungry between meals (3-3.5 hrs btw meals). I can also eat a little more than I want to ( 1.5 cups) at a meal. I have been walking to work and counting calories. I don't want to be a REALLY slow loser. I realize that I am close to the 2 lbs per week ideal, but I have the feeling it will slow way down. I have lost weight super slow in the past......

[SageTracey 608]

It gets better, I promise.

For example - today I had to work for the seventh consecutive day in a row. If this had happened 15 months ago (i.e. pre-band), I would have struggled miserably out of bed, had a heavy Breakfast and driven into the office. Instead, I bounced out of bed because going into work meant that I could get another commute ride in, 30km on my bicycle. My boss provided lunch for the four of us working today (including herself), and I left more than one-third of it because I was satisfied. 15 months ago I would have wolfed it down, accepted her offer of a coffee, and then grabbed a chocolate bar to finish it all off.

Now - lunch break is over so I have to get going on those reports!

Hang in there and look forward to enjoying and celebrating your success.