Banded 4/20/12 And Concerned.......

[NWgirl 574]

Thank you guys for all of your input. I only have two PA's available to me and they r both new to the facility that I receive my fills. Both PA's have an extensive bariatric background according to the one I saw........mind u this particular PA is not banded and the hefer is my size. I almost felt like telling her to apply the lap band diet to herself because she could also afford to lose a few. From the get go this person was VERY condescending because she saw that I had mentioned reflux at my last appt.and gave me the lecture from hell w/o letting me get one word in edgewise. What the broad did not know is that I have had freaking reflux prior to surgery and at my last visit the NP and I were trying to figure out if my excess mucous was allergy related or true reflux. ( I chew every bit to mush and I wait one minute or more between bites.) Then she suggested to remove the 1 cc I have in my band........I told her if that is what she felt is medically necessary to narrow my problem down then by all means do it............and of course she didn't take any one cc out because she was being facetious. I can take the heat and I am not one to BS but I am truly baffled about my last appointment. Hopefully' date=' I can get a fill at my next appt. Thanks guys for your support![/quote']

I am sorry, I would usually not even comment on this, but I found that your use of the term hefer to be pretty insulting.

I understand how upsetting not getting the right support can be, but why would you go around insulting other fat people? You don't know her or her weight struggles, but you know your own and I'm guessing you sure as hell wouldn't want a stranger calling you a fat hefer so why would you do it to someone else?

I'm guessing your words were written out of anger, so I've said my piece and I hope you're able to get a fill at your next appointment.

[Fat Girl Slim 12]

I am sorry, I would usually not even comment on this, but I found that your use of the term hefer to be pretty insulting.

I understand how upsetting not getting the right support can be, but why would you go around insulting other fat people? You don't know her or her weight struggles, but you know your own and I'm guessing you sure as hell wouldn't want a stranger calling you a fat hefer so why would you do it to someone else?

I'm guessing your words were written out of anger, so I've said my piece and I hope you're able to get a fill at your next appointment.

LOL! You have got to be kidding me.......really? Wow.........I am at a loss for words........except to point out that you just said, "why would you go around insulting other fat people?" FAT PEOPLE.....DID YOU JUST SAY FAT PEOPLE? NWgirl ya gots three fingers pointing right back at ya. Oh and I didn't call her a fat hefer.......I called her a hefer.

[NWgirl 574]

LOL! You have got to be kidding me.......really? Wow.........I am at a loss for words........except to point out that you just said, "why would you go around insulting other fat people?" FAT PEOPLE.....DID YOU JUST SAY FAT PEOPLE? NWgirl ya gots three fingers pointing right back at ya. Oh and I didn't call her a fat hefer.......I called her a hefer.

I'm sorry, but isn't it realistic to say that we are fat, no? Isn't that the reason why we are all here? So my use of the word fat is not meant as an insult, like your use of the word hefer. You've since edited your post, but you did call her fat in another part of the post, so I was just combining your terms.

Like I said, I was just trying to remind you to be mindful of others struggles with weight, even when those people upset you.

[Fat Girl Slim 12]

[Fat Girl Slim 12]

I'm sorry, but isn't it realistic to say that we are fat, no? Isn't that the reason why we are all here? So my use of the word fat is not meant as an insult, like your use of the word hefer. You've since edited your post, but you did call her fat in another part of the post, so I was just combining your terms.

Like I said, I was just trying to remind you to be mindful of others struggles with weight, even when those people upset you.

Oh don't get so upset..................think of it as me using the term hefer as a term of endearment for someone that gives horrible patient care! I could have called her a lot worse.....

[sparkplug 106]

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a food ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

[Catherine55 43]

I never liked any of those words! It still pains me to admit that I used to be "obese"... it's hard to say that word... Anyway, I just wanted to post to agree with the folks who suggested that you change PAs -- actually, if you can change doctors, maybe that would be better.

And yes... the WHOLE POINT of having a band is that you should be able to use it at good restriction! Those people are nuts!!

Oh well -- once you get to good restriction, you'll lose without undue trouble, and this will be just a distant memory...

Best wishes for your success,

Catherine

[Fat Girl Slim 12]

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a food ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

Wow Catherine you are such an inspiration! You look great! I hope that I can attain the success you have! You could be a pin up girl in that dress! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[Fat Girl Slim 12]

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a food ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a FOOD ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

Thanks Sparkplug...............I did get a fill........0.5cc's yesterday. I actually had 3 cc's right out of surgery and 1 cc placed at post surgery visit. Your reply is encouraging.........and yes I am going to move forward and stay positive. Being angry is a waste of energy.............