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I broke up with him today. I told him that I was blind before but he crossed the line two weeks ago and I started to see more clearly.

He argued me and made more excuses, but I didn't cave.

It's over.

Funny thing... my friend has already said she wants to set me up with a great guy she knows. Heh.

I'm very happy about my decision.

Well, now, that was easy! Good for you Magsi!

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Magsi, I'm so proud of you, I have been where you were, and leaving the jerk behind was the best thing I ever did and the only reason He was angry about the breakup was because he didn't and couldn't control me through it. Please don't collapse and go back to him in the future, My sis did something like that and she is truly miserable. Stand in front of a mirror and say I love you,,,I LOVE you,,,I love YOU! I wish I could hug you and take you out for a fun day, I'm glad you have a friend that wants you to meet someone, remember, getting connected to another guy while you are on the rebound isn't safe usually. You have had a lot of really good advice from the precious people on this site and you are truly worth it!!

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Hunny,

RUN - don't walk - RUN to your nearest book shop and buy "He's Just Not That into You". I wish i had read it when I was 15. Would have saved me a lot of trouble and more than a few kilo's of emotional eating too.

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Sounds like a no brainer to me! Dump him!

So I've had this boyfriend for a little while. Things progressed very fast between the two of us and I honestly thought he loved me. He said he did...

Maybe I'm naive but I had high hopes for this relationship.

Here are some problems:

During this relationship he was invited to three weddings and didnt ask me to go with him.

His brother lives 5 minutes from him and he never introduced me to him.

He never wanted me to come with when he was going out with his friends so I never got to know any of them.

He never agreed to meet my friends when I asked on several ocassions.

He expect me to always come to his house and when he finally does come to my house, he expects me to praise him for all the effort.

I only go see him 1-2 times a week and he insists on ordering spicy foods or pizza even though I HATE spicy stuff or pizza. WHy cant he just order the food on days I'm not there?

He often acts like he is doing me a favor by making time to see me.

There are a few more things, but are more personal.

Am I just expecting too much? Or are these serious issues? What do you ladies think? I feel like I need to break it off, but when I talk to him he seems very upset and cries. I'm stuck because I care about him but I want more for him than to just hang out and eat pizza.

:help:

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OMG I just saw that you are from Chicago. I also have a great guy for you. He is an RNY'er and just a total sweetie. We both live south of the city, let me know if you are interested. ~Mandy

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Good for you, Magsi!! I was going to post my own sob story of my first marriage (to a guy like your ex) but now I don't have to. You did it!! Now get ready to meet a REAL man. :bounce:

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You made it sound easy, but I'm sure it was a tough thing to do, I'm proud of you for taking the pride in yourself.

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OMG I just saw that you are from Chicago. I also have a great guy for you. He is an RNY'er and just a total sweetie. We both live south of the city, let me know if you are interested. ~Mandy

Cool!

Ofcourse I can't start dating right after a breakup, but give me a couple of weeks :)

Now that I've thought about the breakup, I'm even more proud of myself than I was yesterday.

I DO deserve better!

Mags

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You go Girl!!! I am so proud that you took a stand for yourself--

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Good for you Mags!! Wow.

Let the loser get his sex somewhere else.

Very strong female power move! Awesome.

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I am the mother of 3, two girls. I would be so sad if any one of them ended up in a relationship like this. I will try to teach my kids to 'LOVE THEMSELVES ENOUGH" Love yourself enough to find someone to treat you as you deserve to be treated.

Hey, I am no prude, but it really is a good arguement for celibacy. Then you find quickly what the relationship is based on.

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What's to explain? I wouldn't spend another minute thinking...there are LOTS of "not bad people" out there, but does that mean you want to develop a serious relationship with all of them? I think your criteria should be set higher than "not a bad person."

It's over, if it ever really started.

Respect yourself. Maybe during this time of changing, you would do better to fly solo for a while?

Live and learn. Sorry you are confused, and please, just ditch this guy.

Cindy

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Good for you Magsi!! I just smiled when I read this. You did a wonderful thing for YOURSELF....so proud of you!!

:)

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