To Tell Or Not To Tell

[cmk99 39]

How does everyone deal with family and friends? Did you tell everyone or wait till they notice your losing then tell?

[jayeedee 7]

Didn't feel a need to tell anyone other than my immediate and close family and friends so I had a core support system that knew me, and would be supportive no matter what. Everyone has to decide what is best for them.

[KristinsMommy 145]

I went back and fourth with myself about telling people. at first I didn't want to tell anyone but i told my family and boyfriend and try are supportive. I told a few people at work and a few friends and they all said "don't do it " everyone knows someone who knows someone who died blah blah blah. I basically just told them to shut up & it's my choice and to piss my a$$ lol

[Toddy 758]

I had a grand plan not to tell a soul except my husband, children and mother. It didn't work. All it takes is getting "stuck" when you're out to eat with friends, then you have to tell them. And after that, it's just easier to tell than it is to try to hide it.

[BayougirlMrsS 3,935]

I told the people in my life that meant the most and that would support me. Did they all support me at first.... No... but when it all comes down to it... the only person that matters is ME.

You tell who you want to tell.... just be sure your ready for some good and not so good responses...

Good luck

[zukagirl22 1]

I got my band in 08' and then everyone at work knew and was supportive. Ive since started a new job and chose not to tell everyone. Just nice not to have eveyone constintaly see what i eat or don't eat. But i had to tell my b/f. He would know something was up by my eating habbits.

[Grandma3 73]

I told only a few who I knew would keep this secret.

NO ONE else needs to know.

No one can make this choice for you, just remember if you tell someone and they tell someone, soon everyone will know.

[Soexcited 64]

I have been banded for 2 years and 7 months. The only people that know are my parents and in laws and my husband who is also banded. Best choice EVER! You will go through many ups and downs with your band and the worse thing my one banded friend ever dealt with was the horrible feeling when she gained weight back. Her "friends" really looked down at her, it was super bad. The problem is that none of your non banded friends will EVER get it, will EVER understand. You can gain weight with the band. Bad habits, no working out, too much wine and ice cream and you are screwed. Dont tell. Thats just my 2 cents.

[BreBre 6]

I'm not telling very many people. It's none of their business and because I am a low BMI, I'm sure I would get a lot of snarls. I rather not deal with everyone's opinions and crap. I'm telling everyone I am eating less and working out. (Which will be the truth!)

[Soexcited 64]

OK I forgot how to change my signature. Can someone remind me please?

[Soexcited 64]

Figured it out, never mind!

[christinek 2]

Hi I'm kinda new here been lurking for a few weeks. I told lots of people and got as many negatives as positives. I'm kinda sorry for the negatives but it just makes me want to prove them wrong!! That's how twisted I am!!! lol. Staying positive and having a supportive husband and coming here is all I need. I'm just looking at all the positives that will happen once I'm banded and lost the weight!!!

[kiwijo 2]

I've told lots of people. In proud of it especially since I'm off all diabetes meds since starting pre op fluids on 1 May. Every single person has been supportive and encouraging.

[dstaeger 1]

I tell everyone :-) almost at my 1 year bandaversary! 83 lbs gone! 35 more to go

[Cindy C 150]

Whether or not to tell is a personal decision. I found that telling everyone helped hold me accountable.