Weight Loss Going To Head!

[shrcumm 953]

My Best Friend received the Gastric Bypass and loss alot of weight she struggled with herself for many years since we were in first grade! Now she is acting some what like a super model thinking that she is Gods gift to men!! She has this attitude like every man must eat out of her plate and its her way or no way!! Her behavior gets to me!! Is this normal?

[Humming Bird 275]

I think it's pretty normal. Maybe she has the feeling she has to make up for lost time or something. Imagine feeling bad about yourself and fat all your life and then , BAM, weight is off and esteem is new! Be happy for your friend and tell her in a nice and understanding way if she goes over the top too much.

[Rebecca Cain Salpacka 100]

I dont know if its "normal" but its not all that uncommon. I know a friend of a friend, as well as my sis that both had bypass...both turned into very stuck up snobby you know whats. It was one of the key reasons i was so dead set against having weight loss surgery myself..i feared i would turn out the same way. However, with the LB it comes off slower so its not this sudden look in the mirror of "damn I look hotter than so and so" those with LB tend to have time to get use to the slow changes so in my opinion we are less likely to have the stuck up attitude.

I told my husband I want to gain more confidence, but if i EVER come across as snobby or cocky, PLEASE say something, because i dont want to be that person.

[kah1213 311]

I think it's totally common. There's a fine line between feeling confident (good thing) and being cocky and stuck up (bad thing). I think you can be happy for your friend, but keep it real and tell her when she needs to take it down a notch.

[mrspopeye 69]

I know someone who had a gastric bypass several years ago who did this. She had been overweight all her life, had a husband who loved her unconditionally, 2 beautiful little girls and a great life. She lost 150lbs and it was like she relived her teenage years all over again- she started dressing provocatively, hanging out in bars, sleeping with younger men, all of which eventually caused her to lose her marriage and her children. Her husband got full custody, although the oldest one stayed with mom from about age 16 on and followed many of her patterns. That girl is now in jail and I 100% believe this would not have occurred had she not acted like that after her bypass. Her husband told me that his lawyer brought up some statistical information during their divorce hearing and he said the the divorce rate for gastric bypass patients is 70%, as opposed to 50% for the general population.

[#MagicWithinme 173]

my cousin's boss is like that, every guy she sees "wants her". I woulld say say it comes from the self doubt they have had all their lives and yes trying to catch up. i told hubby same thing, if I start acting like that, set me straight.

[jennifer1 180]

That divorce rate is astounding....I told my friends if I start trippn please check me! I understand the new found confidence but geez!