How Often Do You Eat Socially Now?

[daisychains7 427]

I know that social eating and going to restaurants are going to be my biggest hurdle now that I'm banded. Before my band I would get take out or go out to eat once a day... Very unhealthy!

I'm 8 days post op and have had to turn down a few dinner invites already from friends because I am on puréed food. But I am going to a seafood restaurant with my visiting grandfather in a couple of weeks (I will be on soft foods by then) and am having anxiety over it. Will it always be like this? I was just wondering at what point most of you felt comfortable at a restaurant, and how often do you eat socially with friends now? What do you order?

Sorry for so many questions.

[pnsbamafan 4]

I went through the same thing at first, but got over it quickly. My family and friends felt guilty over eating in front of me more than anything. I found myself avoiding any restaurant that didn't serve Soup and was always amazed at other bandsters that would order salad and eat chicken. I have gotten sick more times than I can count in the past 4 years, but finally found my sweet spot about 6 months ago. I am no longer hesitant to order real food when out with my friends or family. I go out or even grab my fav Chinese food a couple of times a month now. I live by fish and turkey these days for my Protein. I do not eat anything fried - the grease will kill you for sure! Had I not moved 4 hours away from my surgeon, I'm confident I would have been a "normal" bandster within that first year. That's definitely the key! I'm only at 2.7, but that amount works for me. I still have my moments, like now, that I lean towards soft foods or liquids only. Everyday is an adventure!

[B-52 7,113]

I can be social and not eat much. Did it today at a BD party at work. Had a very small amount on my plate, which I picked at and never finished.

Yet talked and laughed up a storm with everyone just the same.

I did not watch them eat, and I doubt they were watching me.

[pnsbamafan 4]

Good point. I'm completely comfortable now in front of other people. Maybe it's a chick thing, or maybe just me, but the self conscious aspect is a demon I continue to struggle with.

[kah1213 311]

I haven't had my surgery yet. I keep hearing about people having stuck episodes,and it scares me that it might happen while out to dinner with friends. but I guess that's why a lot of bandsters just order soup!

[B-52 7,113]

I haven't had my surgery yet. I keep hearing about people having stuck episodes,and it scares me that it might happen while out to dinner with friends. but I guess that's why a lot of bandsters just order soup!

people only get stuck episodes, for the most part, whrn they are still fairly new and still learning to adapt to life with the band. It has been a while since I got stuck. I know what foods to avoid, and can read the warning signs very eary and have learned to stop and not push the issue.

[Lauracat 14]

i am 3 weeks out i went out for mothers day trist of all there is a card that your sugeron can give you that tells them you have to have small portions and order off the kids menu also share with someone else. Or order from the starters. I made it a rule of thub never ever order something ror the frist time out

[honk 780]

I have no problems eating out. I look for healthier options on the menu and am not afraid to ask for sauces on the side or for something to be made with as little butter/oil as possible. I find the healthier your food choices usually the smaller the portions. I mentally divide the plate and plan on taking half of it home. I try to focus on lower fat Protein with veggies; and stay away from Pasta or rice (too many carbs). I have ordered a hamburger no bun and asked if I can have a side salad or a baked potato (salsa is great instead of butter/sour cream) instead of fries. Some hamburgers come with lettuce and tomato; I've asked for low fat dressing and eaten that as a salad. Fajitas are a great option just eat the fillings with a fork and leave the wrap. I have no trouble with eggs and order egg whites and turkey bacon when having brunch (Denny's- again all about searching out heathier options).

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

I think something that we all need to remember is, we're in the social situation for the socialization not eating. Eating is just secondary to the company you're with and should have absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you have a good time.

I have been to many social situation in recent months, even at my own home, and being banded has never once effected me. As B-52 stated, I just have a small plate of whatever is being served then just pick at it. My focus is my company not my food.

I've eaten out many times, too. Again, I either order half portions (if they allow it) or I simply eat very slow, listen to my band for full signals, and stop eating when I'm satisfied. I also use an app called Lose It to track calories but it also a food search by restaurant name, so when eating out if I'm not certain I look it up there to have a look at calories and fat content before ordering.

Being banded doesn't have to stop you from having a social life or eating socially. You just have to put the focus back on the people where it belongs rather than the food being served.

[daisychains7 427]

Thank you so much all of you. This has really given me some perspective. It helps to hear from those who have gone through it and changed their relationship w/ food for the better. I know my social life will not stop just because I have the band, and I don't want it to.

I am wondering if it's wise for me to test out shrimp and veggies at home before trying it at the restaurant. Just to be safe.

[lafaye999 32]

I have a group of friends that meet once a month. First I'm five weeks post op today. Last Thursday was my first time out since March with the group. However, I ordered a salad knowing I wasn't goin to eat it. My eyes have always been bigger than my stomach and now it's literally true. But it felt good to leave food on my plate for a change and to have others ask for my food.

[lafaye999 32]

I made It out tonight with boyfriend and believe it or not I don't care if I ever eat out again..

[Allison0927 329]

Soup and side of mixed fruit are my eat out standbys. I eat out including business lunches all,the time.