Frustrated!

[lolitawantsaband 45]

I have gained like 90lbs in the past 2 1/2yrs. I go up and I go down in weight, you know, the yo-yo. So that is why I am electing to have lap band surgery. I know I am overweight & I know that right about now I don't look my best because I don'f feel my best! Why did my Grandmother go on about how I need to lose weight and all I have to do is eat off of a bread and butter plate! Huh! Oh and find a hobby! I told her as politely as I could that I am aware of my weight and that I have elected to have the lap band surgery. She told me I don't need that I just need to stop being so stressed and eat smaller portions. Ok, if it was that simple there would be no WLS options because all the world need to do is eat off of a bread and butter plate and not be so stressed. Oh and get a hobby. lol I have to laugh it off because if I don't I'd be more pissed than I am now. It's not what she said but more so how she was saying it. Like I'm not aware of my obesity & that it's so simple & I'm not focused. She said that the devil has tricked me into thinking I need the surgery and all I need to do is pray to God and don't keep an idle mind. Blah Blah Blah. I told her I hear what you are saying but I'm having the surgery because I FEEL IT IS THE BEST SOLUTION FOR ME! I AM WHO MATTER WHEN I MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT ME! I was so pissed off :angry: . I am not telling another person about my decision, people talk about you in your face and behind your back and to me, it's the DEVIL that is working against me bettering myself the BEST way that I know how.

On another note, I have went to the nutritionist today, I have a few more appointments to go. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

[colleeb 5]

I get where your coming from I was talking to my husband about it and he said it seems quite drastic and I said so is being 120lbs overweight and being in the morbid obese catagory!!!

[SageTracey 608]

I'm sorry to hear that your Grandmother is so negative about WLS. More than likely it is due to her lack of knowledge about the procedure and how it works. Or she may be genuinely fearful of you having surgery but doesn't know any other way to express this.

If you have fully researched the band and have decided that it is the best option for you, then you need to go for it. Just make sure that you have someone who can be a great support for you.

My husband has been an awesome support for me throughout my journey and I truly believe that I would have been less successful without such support.

Good luck.

[Grandma3 73]

That is the exact reason I only told 5 people, my husband, my son & daughter-in-law (I would never have any surgery with out tell them), my sister and my friend. I don't have people at work watching me because they don't know, the ones I eat lunch with think I am on a Protein diet. Which I am!

People just do not understand what it is like to be 100 lbs over weight.

It is easy for them because they have never been there.

I hope you find some good support, my husband has been behind me all the way.

Don't get to upset with Granny, she is from the old school and just does not understand.

Good luck on your journey, it looks like you're going right down that to do list.

[Pollyanna12 74]

Hang in there! Tour story mirrors most of my relationship with my mom. It didn't make me love her less but man. It made steam pour out of my ears for most of my life!

I chalked it up to her being entitled to her opinions and I didn't have to try to engage in disagreeing with her. It took a ton of patience and lots of trips to DQ. Glad I have found better coping skills.

[Esposito37 2]

I only told 2 or 3 people about my surgery because I didn't want to hear from the "experts" on what I should do!!! Do it for you and eating off a bread and butter plate is actually a good way to get prepared for after surgery!!!

[lolitawantsaband 45]

I love my Grandma and I know she mean well but I don't want to hear anything negative when it come to my decision to have this procedure. If she and anyone else that has negative comments could walk a day or two in our shoes they would get an understanding of how important it is for me to have it. Thank everyone for the encouraging words it really helps me. I love this forum and without if I may have changed my mind.